You would be stunned to know, that your love before marriage, and after marriage are totally different from each other.
Before marriage, your love for your partner is at its peak, and you would do nothing in this world that would diminish it. When you are on the verge of getting married, you display your love openly to your partner, that he\she feels you are the best person in this world.
How nice it would be, if this sort of deep and open love for your partner continued throughout your married life?
But strangely, your love for your partner undergoes drastic changes after you marry him\her. It is not that you stop loving your partner, after marriage. You still love your partner, but there are radical changes in the way you emote your love towards him\her.
Why does your love for your partner, undergo drastic changes after your marriage?
After marriage, you are stunned that your relationship with your partner is not about love alone. It has responsibilities, commitments, money, adjustability and many other intricate qualities attached to it.
- You work yourself threadbare, to make your family financially secure.
- You undergo tons of work-related pressures, that drain your energy.
- You are stunned, that your partner is not what you imagined him\her to be.
You did not imagine in your wildest dreams, that the scenario of your marriage will become sober, serious, argumentative and confrontational. You had dreamt that your relationship with your partner, would be constantly romantic and sensationally intimate. To your shock, none of your dreams about your relationship with your partner materializes in reality.
In fact, your marriage scenario is in exact contrast to what you imagined it to be.
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Shall we now look at the 5 unimaginable differences in your love before and after marriage?
No 1. Love before and after marriage – You need your personal space
Before marriage, you could not be away from your partner even for a moment. Even during your working hours, you kept calling your partner to tell him\her, how much you were missing him\her.
But after marriage, you like to spend most of your time in your own personal space, away from your partner. You like doing your own thing, without your partner breathing down your neck. There are times, you want to watch your favorite shows, without the presence of your partner.
After marriage, whenever your partner calls you from his\her workplace, the conversation between you is to the point, terse, and has no love in it.
This changeover, is a common marriage scenario. It is nothing to worry about. It happens, because your intense love for your partner has now mellowed into mature love. Enjoying your personal space is not lack of love. You are just pampering your individuality.
No 2. Love before and after marriage – Appreciation becomes less and less
Before marriage, you appreciated your partner for almost everything.
- You appreciated your partner, for his\her talent.
- You appreciated your partner, when he\she looked good.
- You appreciated your partner, for his\her emotional support.
Your constant appreciation makes your partner feel, that he\she is lucky to have married you. But after marriage, there is a three sixty turn in your attitude towards your partner. You do not notice your partner, nor do you appreciate him\her.
- Your partner might be looking his\her best, but you scarcely notice it.
- Your partner might have won kudos in his\her workplace, but you have no word of appreciation for it.
- Your partner might be highly talented, but no word of appreciation springs from you.
Lack of appreciation is the number one sign, that you are taking your partner for granted. You constantly overlook the contribution of your partner, in making you feel happy and comfortable. When you are not appreciative, your partner feels that you have lost all your love for him\her.
No 3. Love before and after marriage – You more than willingly hurt your partner
Before marriage, you did not have the heart to hurt your partner. Even when you absent-mindedly uttered hurting words to your partner, you instantly apologized for the hurt inflicted by you. You cajoled and pacified your partner, and asked his\her forgiveness multiple times.
But after marriage, you expose your anger against your partner, with disturbing frequency. Whenever you are tensed about something, you vent it against your partner. After hurting your partner, you go about your work as though you did nothing wrong. There is no apology from you. There is no cajoling. There is no pacification.
No 4. Love before and after marriage – You talk less and less
Before marriage, you talked with partner for hours together. You always wanted to share all your feelings with your partner. When you were angry, you talked with your partner about the person behind it. When you were moody and tensed, you instantly called your partner for his\her emotional support.
But after marriage, everything changes. You no longer confide about your problems to your partner, making him\her wonder about your feelings and emotions. When you do not share your feelings with your partner, conversation between you stalls and falters. You often search for topics to talk with your partner.
No 5. Love before and after marriage – No more open display of love
Before marriage, you displayed your love for your partner, openly and frankly. You interacted with care and affection towards your partner. Your display of love is so authentic and brazenly open, that your partner did not have an iota of doubt about your love for him\her.
But after marriage, you scarcely display your love, making your partner doubtful whether you love him\her at all. You do not confide your love to your partner, as you feel there is no need for it.
CONCLUSION
It is true that your love will settle down to normalcy, after your marriage. But you make the grave mistake of assuming that your partner will understand your love, even though you do not make efforts to display it.
The love between you before your marriage, cannot continue forever. But your apathy towards showing your love for your partner, should also not continue forever.
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