You feel frustrated when your wife hates sex, don’t you?
Most men feel that their wives do not satisfy their sexual needs as they want it.
You are no different.
You feel sexually deprived and starved when your wife time and again refuses to satisfy you in the bed, don’t you?
As a man you are very focused on your physical needs. You want your wife to satisfy your physical hunger as and when you like it.
You feel that your wife’s topmost duty is to give you pleasure in bed. Naturally when your wife hates sex you feel angry and frustrated.
Have you ever thought why your wife hates sex?
You never give a thought to it. You would be shocked to know that you are the reason your wife hates sex.
Yes.
You are the culprit for the lack of sexual interest in your wife.
Do you know when you starve your wife emotionally, she starves you physically?
To you sex is just a physical act. You get into the mood easily. You want sex and you must have it. That is it. You never think about it from the emotional angle.
To your wife sex is very emotional. She wants you to emotionally satisfy her so that she feels sexually interested in you.
She does not have animal cravings like you do. She wants sex in a different way. To you sex is an impulsive act. Your wife needs to be emotionally aroused to feel sexually aroused.
But you never care. All you want is a hurried sex. You are very concentrated on your male needs. You never care to satisfy your wife the way she wants.
Can you see you how you use sex as a plain fulfillment of your physical hunger?
These are the common reasons why your wife dislikes sex.
The other day I was talking to a marriage counselor.
‘Many couples complain of sexual dissatisfaction nowadays. It is one of the top reasons for divorce’ she told me.
‘In the early stages of their marriage they enjoyed excellent sexual life, didn’t they? Why this sudden dissatisfaction in it? I asked her curiously.
Her answer was simple and rational.
‘Husband looks at sex practically. When he wants sex he must have it. He does not care whether his wife is ready for it. He does the act and turns over to sleep leaving his wife completely dissatisfied’ the counselor went on.
I completely agreed with her. You are totally in fault for the sexual disinterest of your wife.
Are you wondering how?
- You never share your wife’s household chores.
- You never look after your children.
- You are bone lazy when at home.
- You never support her in family issues.
- You never realize your wife might be too tired to have sex.
- You never appreciate her.
- You never demonstrate your love.
You never fulfill your duties as a caring husband. But you want your wife to satisfy you in the bed anytime you want.
When you invite her to bed without doing a thing for her your wife hates sex.
Sexual interest for your wife is a very slow process. She must feel your care if you want her physical intimacy.
You want the sexual act immediately. Your wife needs small physical gestures to make her ready for it.
- She wants you to gently make her prepared for it.
- A pat in the cheeks excites her more than a deep kiss.
- A loving look into her eyes matters to her more than your desire loaded eyes.
- An affectionate hugs thrills her more than your tight and ardent hug.
- When you are affectionate and caring she likes you.
- When you listen to her sexual needs she likes it as intensely as you do.
You blame that your wife dislikes sex never knowing you are the reason behind it.
How to make your wife satisfy you sexually?
Be gentle and kind.
Don’t force her when she is not in the mood.
Your affectionate physical gestures should show your desire.
A secret kiss when your children are not looking ignites fire in her.
When you look smart she feels drawn towards you.
Tease her lovingly, she understands your intention.
Appreciate her looks to make her ready for the most intimate aspect of married life.
Your wife likes sex as much as you do. When you understand her emotional needs she easily understands your sexual needs. After all the pleasure you derive from your intimacy is mutual, isn’t it?
Kavya says
Hi mam
I have been married since 8 yrs. Life was perfect till before last year(he was loving, caring, supporting) and we come to know im infertile and 3 ivfs failed, he supported me so much. Since last year he has changed, not affectionate, caring , doesn’t say love u, not a kiss, and dont give respect me n not interested in me. We used separate rooms for sleeping due to my neighbor was making noise. In jan 2017 he asked my permission to go trip to thailand, i said ok.. (i didnt know abt prostitution, i thought let him enjoy night clubs n country) after coming back i confronted him abt prostitute) he says didnt had sex, only blow job, she was good, she said im a wonderful person. He is in contact with thailand prostitute..conveinced me its out of country n dont want to do it in dis country.. he said dont doubt me im open, i wil not leave u n love u n all. After coming back he has changed always mobile, beauty concious, i dont have access to his phone, mails he expects privacy.. he says dont worry abt me worry abt urself so i started a quarrel so he says im jealous, doesn’t feel doing sex with me, dont have lust, our marriage is lacking in sex, u r my friend, Nxt month we do 4th ivf so tat u wil b busy with kid… he has become liar now he went hotel rooms 3 to 4 times saying office n weekend party, not interested in me, he says wil become byragi or sadhu or leave house and go to spiritual way..
I dont believe him because he masterbates weekly thrice, watch porn since college times(watch more porn now)Most of the time he do foreplay with me since marriage 5 to 6 times sex in a year.. watch girls, ladies and sometimes takes their pics.
He was good human being but angry bird but now more angry n irritated. I was working before bt not now
Im cute, fair, slim but breast s low, may tat is the reason.. im trying my best to love n caring him or dont know plz help me.. sorry for long story and bad english.
Thanks a lot in advance.
Mathi says
Hi kavya,
I find the behavior of your husband odd. Why has your husband change from being loving and caring to being cheating and betraying?
Are you denying him sex? You must understand that if a man is not physically satisfied at home he never thinks twice before having pleasure elsewhere. But going to Thailand to satisfy his physical needs is a little too much. Your physical appearance has nothing to do with his behavior. If he truly loves you, you can easily win him back.
Don’t pick up fights with him. Be friendly. Be reasonable. Don’t thrust the frustration of your infertility on your husband. This is a emotional problem which involves both. Be patient. Good luck.