If you are married to a mama boy husband you feel you are very unlucky, don’t you?
When you marry your husband you obviously feel you have more rights over him than anyone else in the world.
Quite a natural feeling, isn’t it?
You want him to depend on you for emotional support.
But to your alarm your mama boy husband leans towards his mother for emotional support even after marriage. This makes you go crazy.
When your mama boy husband lets his mother have more rights over him, you are furious at the intrusion into your privileges.
It is true your husband owes his success to his mother. She molded him into what he is today. But it is her parental duty. She cannot expect control over your husband just because of her sacrifices.
After the marriage of her son, as an understanding mother she should step back so that you enjoy your fair rights as his life partner.
But often this does not happen. There is a tremendous battle of rights over your husband- you as his legally wedded wife and your demanding mother-in-law.
You feel you have more rights over your husband than his mother.
‘I am going to spend the rest of my life with my husband. I am the one who will share all the ups and downs of his life. Naturally I have more rights over him than his mother’ you feel possessive that your husband is all yours.
‘I was the one who molded him. He would not be what he is today if not for me. Just because he is married he never ceases to be my son. I too have equal rights over him’, your mother-in-law staunchly feels that she too has equal rights.
This tug of war between daughters- in- law and mothers- in -law has been going on for decades.
It is a fact that you have more rights over your husband than your mother-in-law. You are the one who is going to travel along with your husband all through his life journey.
But when your mama boy husband still clings to his mother like a school kid you feel your hackles rise in aggressive anger.
- Does your mama boy husband compare your cooking with that of his mother?
- Does he bring in his mother into your interaction? My mother said this! My mother said that! Words which makes your nerves creep with frustration.
- Does he ask the permission of his mother before he does anything?
- Does he complain about you to his mother?
- Does he act like a lost kid without his mother?
- Is he terrified of her?
- Does he buy things for his mother without your knowledge?
- Does he keep on updating his mother about whatever happens in his life?
Phew! Yes, your husband is a typical mama boy. He is her little boy till date.
It is very tough living with such a mama boy husband. Your poor husband has not yet cut the umbilical cord of his mother.
Here is what your mama boy husband does!
1. Your mama boy husband calls his mother several times a day
Your husband shares whatever happens in the day with his mother. This makes you feel irritated and annoyed.
In fact your husband shares more secrets with his mother than with you. You feel furious when she knows more about his life than you.
You feel heated up when your mother-in- law has your husband tightly under her control. Your mama’s boy husband obeys his mother meekly without questioning her.
3.Your mama boy husband compares you with his mother
When you cook your husband his favorite dish he invariably says his mother does it better than you. When you take care of him he says that you are like his mother.
Comparing you with his mother is something you can never tolerate. You are more committed to the problems of your husband than her. You have more duties towards him than her.
He makes you plain jealous by comparing you with his mother.
A typical mama’s boy attitude!
4.Your mama boy husband lavishes his mother with gifts
During your dating days you encourage your husband to buys things for his mother. You accompany him to purchase gifts for her.
But after marriage your husband does not buy you gifts. But he lavishes his mother with costly gifts. He hides it from you fearing your lashing tongue.
When you go shopping his eyes searches for things to buy for his mother. You literally fume at this plain mama boy behavior of your husband.
5. Your mama boy husband gives his mother too many rights
Your husband wants his mother to cook him his favorite dish.
He allows her to make changes in the arrangements of furniture in your home.
He allows her to do service to him.
He gives her rights to take financial decisions for the family.
You fume inwardly at this blatant intrusion into your rights.
5. Your mama boy husband complains about you to his mother
Your husband reports about you to his mother like a kid.
He goes to her with loads of complaints about you.
Whenever you have a fight with your husband, he immediately goes to her for advice.
6. Your mama boy husband updates his mother daily
Your husband does not interact with you with love and affection after marriage.
But the love for his mother never changes.
He is in the mobile for a long time telling his mother whatever happened on that day. He laughs a lot with her.
He keeps his voice low so that you would not hear what he is talking with her. His mother knows more of what happened in his work place than you.
Makes you fume with anger, doesn’t it?
7. His mother decides what your mama boy husband should do
Are you planning a home?
It is natural your husband tells his mother about it.
But when she decides the location, the budget of your home and the way it should be built you cannot tolerate it.
When your husband listens to her regarding the education of your children you feel furious.
These are your rights, not hers.
Your husband should realize that it is you who should have more say in family matters and not his mother. She should give suggestions only when she is asked.
His mother should realize that her kid son has a family of his own and can decide what should be done with his life.
Your husband should love and respect his mother. He owes her that. But after marriage he has duties towards you.
He cannot run to his mother crying ‘mommy’ like he did when he was a kid. He should turn towards you for advice and support. He should cease to be a mama boy to become a dutiful son. No more than that.