You should prevent divorce to make the love you had for each other, meaningful and worthwhile.
In the hectic world we live in, modern couples marry in haste, and also divorce in haste.
It is indeed sad that your relationship which started with love, should end bitterly in a divorce court.
You might think that divorce offers you the best solution to end all your relationship troubles.
In actual fact, it is the starting point of all sort of troubles in your life.
It is rather alarming that divorce is the most commonly uttered word among modern couples.
Divorce and broken homes are a common scenario in modern marriages.
Sad, isn’t it?
You feel divorce is the easiest way out of a relationship you dislike.
You have no qualms about divorcing your spouse. In fact, you easily find a new partner also.
When you do so, you make a mockery of the institution of marriage.
It is sad that even older couples, resort to divorce, making their years of togetherness meaningless.
What happened in your relationship, that you have lost the love you had for each other?
Why are there no guarantee for longevity of your marriage?
Why are there only rare cases of successful marriages?
Why has divorce become so prevalent in this modern age?
Answer to all these questions is very simple.
You take your marriage for granted.
You are at loggerheads with your spouse for very petty reasons.
The words adjustment, tolerance and compatibility have become obsolete in your marriage vocabulary.
Do you think divorce can end all your problems?
It does not.
Your divorce leaves your children emotionally shattered, your finance depleted and your mindset in abject dejection.
It is of primary importance that you give value to your married life. When you overcome your differences with your spouse, it saves your marriage.
And when you save your marriage, you also save your children from the traumatic emotional upheaval they will face if you separate from your spouse.
Shall we look at the 5 simple ways to prevent divorce?
The no 1. Simple way to prevent divorce is accepting that both are individuals
You must first understand that though you are married, both are individuals with your own unique wishes and desires.
Your marriage in no way changes it.
You cannot expect your spouse to always act in a way you like.
Your spouse is bound to be different from you.
Your spouse will like different brands in the things you buy. The way your spouse handles money will be different from you.
Even the channel your spouse watches in the TV, will be different from you.
You might be an extrovert, and your spouse might be an introvert.
You might be soft spoken, whereas your spouse might be temperamental.
Do these differences between you warrant a divorce?
No.
It does not.
It just shows that your spouse is different from you.
Never expect a xerox copy of yourself from your spouse.
You should understand, that just as you find your spouse totally different from your nature, your spouse too finds that you are very different from himself or herself.
These differences that exist between you, add spice to your marriage.
No 2. Simple way to prevent divorce is to never ridicule your spouse
You often think that you are superior to your spouse.
So, you make fun of the habits of your spouse, which makes him\her resentful.
You keep making negative comments about the way your spouse does his\her work. Your spouse hates you for this.
You compare your spouse with others in a very lesser light.
You nag your spouse, about his\her way of doing things.
Wife nags her husband, while husband ridicules his wife.
Both are nasty habits.
You should treat each other with respect.
Appreciate the good points of your spouse. Appreciation builds up your marriage.
Be supportive towards the emotional needs of your spouse.
Never ever degrade your spouse before others.
Treating your spouse as your own, will make you desist from making needless negative comments about your spouse.
The no 3. Simple way to prevent divorce is to never stop communicating
After a few years of marriage, both stop communicating with each other.
If at all you talk with your spouse, it is about some important family problems.
This topic is always sensitive and confrontational. It makes you fight and argue with your spouse.
When you stop communicating with your spouse, uneasy silence prevails in your home.
You spend your time at home doing your own thing, and your spouse is occupied doing his\her own thing.
When you stop communicating with your spouse, you begin to assume many things about him or her. And mostly, your assumptions about your spouse are negative.
So, never stop communicating with your spouse.
Always offer an explanation behind your anger.
Always inform your spouse about your whereabouts.
Discuss important family decisions you take with your spouse.
Confess your love for your spouse, openly and frankly.
Appreciate the good points of your spouse. If at all you argue with your spouse, fight fair.
When you keep communicating with your spouse, it clears away many of your needless doubts about him or her.
The no 4. Simple way to prevent divorce is to give time to understand each other.
During your dating days, you thought your spouse was flawless. Your spouse also thinks so.
But after your marriage, you are taken aback by the other side of your spouse. And you feel cheated that your spouse is different from the person you imagined him or her to be.
And in your disappointment, you want to divorce your spouse.
You are wrong in feeling so.
Understand the simple fact, that your love days are totally different from your married life.
Your love days are carefree and fun-filled, while your married life is responsible and accountable.
You also put your best foot forward when in love. And you reveal your true colors only after your marriage.
After your marriage, you make much ado about the minor faults of your spouse.
You find the habits of your spouse infuriating.
You find your spouse to be dull and boring.
You are taken aback when your spouse is not loving as you thought him or her to be.
When you do not give time for your marriage to settle down, you will find yourself rushing towards divorce.
Give time for your married life to settle down. Never take a magnifying glass to find mistakes about your spouse.
Never try to change your spouse. Accept your spouse for what he\she is. Do not cling to your spouse in the name of love.
Be tolerant and adjustable towards your spouse.
When you allow time to understand your spouse, you can easily avoid divorce.
The no 5. Simple way to save your marriage from divorce is to be responsible
Do you feel only your spouse should be responsible in your married life?
You are wrong in feeling so.
Responsibility in marriage is mutual to you and your spouse. When you thrust all family responsibilities on your spouse, it makes him or she feel that he or she is being taken for granted by you.
You cannot handle family responsibilities alone. Neither can your spouse.
Both should be financially responsible. Both should have equal responsibility towards your children.
Both have same responsibility in solving family issues and problems.
When there has been a financial mistake, both are responsible towards.
Shying away from responsibilities is yet another reason behind divorce.
Conclusion
“Nowadays love is a matter of chance, matrimony a matter of money and divorce a matter of course” says Helen Rowland
Divorce might seem an easy option to you.
But the aftermath of divorce, is mostly tragic and heart breaking.
Save your marriage from ending in the divorce court.
When you avoid divorce, you save your life from tears and remorse. And you give your children the blessing of a united family.
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