Being married to an unfaithful wife is a trauma, which you find it unable to bear, isn’t it?
Loyalty is the most needed ingredient in a marriage. It makes you live through your married life, without feeling suspicious about your spouse.
Yes!
Good marriage is always built on mutual trust. You can never underestimate its importance in your marriage.
“I felt my world spinning when I heard that my wife was having an affair”, Srinivasan, my college mate told me with his voice trembling with anger and fury.
“Since I work abroad, I am away from home for many months. I talked with my wife, almost daily. But of late, she never attended my phone calls,” my friend went on with regret.
“Even if my wife came on the line, she never talked with her usual cheerfulness. She would sound abrupt and curt. Usually, she would ask me when I will be home,and how much she is missing me. But lately, she sounded like a stranger to me” Srinivasan looked terribly upset.
“I took two weeks off from my work to come home. When I came here, I knew about the unfaithfulness of my wife. I now know that she is having an affair with her old friend. I cannot bear the thought that my wife had been disloyal to me. I will never forgive her. I am going to divorce her” he told me grimly.
Yes!
Unfaithfulness destroys your marriage.
When your unfaithful wife makes a mockery of the trust you had in her, you do not feel like continuing in your marriage.
It is not that you become doubtful about your wife, all of a sudden. There were many warning signals which makes your suspicion come true.
The attitude of your wife changes drastically when she is unfaithful to you, that you feel as if you are living with a stranger.
The habits of your wife undergo drastic changes. Her behavior towards you changes from love to completely ignoring you.
Your wife becomes so secretive, that you gradually begin to doubt her loyalty.
Here are the emphatic signs of an unfaithful wife
1. Your wife no longer communicates with you
Your unfaithful wife no longer communicates with you. You might be in the same room, but there is not a word exchanged between you.
Your wife seems to exist in an isolated world, where you don not have a place.
Your wife scarcely looks at you. You might as well be non-existent to her.
She refuses to answer you, when you interact with her. If at all she talks with you, it is in monosyllables.
The body language of your wife, shows that she has lost her love for you.
She often rolls her eyes at you.
Your wife looks everywhere, but at you when you talk with her.
She crosses her arms across her chest to show that she is ready for a confrontation with you.
Silence rules your home so much so, that you feel suffocated and drained.
2. Your wife changes her password
When there is trust in your marriage, it is only natural you know the password of your wife’s social media account.
It is because your wife knows, that you would never take advantage of it and snoop on her.
She shares her bank password with you, as she trusts you. She knows you will not fleece her.
But when your wife is cheating you, she suddenly changes password of her mobile\social media.
Her call history is often deleted.
Your wife acts very secretive. It becomes too much of a hush-hush that you begin to suspect her.
3. Your wife takes special care of her appearance
Your wife usually was very casual about her looks. She looked beautiful, without spending tons of money on it.
But when your wife turns unfaithful, she becomes addicted to beauty. It is as though she was using her looks as a bait to hook someone.
Your wife changes her hairstyle. She spends tons of money on dresses and beauty parlors. She becomes that obsessed with her looks.
You know that the sudden attention your wife shows towards beauty is not for you, as she scarcely pays attention to you.
4. Your wife spends loads of time in her mobile
Whenever your wife is home, she does not spend time with you. She is glued to her mobile phone.
Whenever your wife speaks in the mobile, her voice is very low and secretive. She giggles with excitement which she has never done with you.
Your wife spends hours in the mobile, coolly ignoring you.
And the secretive way she talks in her mobile, makes your suspicion confirmed.
5. Your wife is always late from work
The work timings of your wife changes drastically. She is invariably late from work.
Even when you ask your wife the reason, she makes derisive comments about it.
Many a time, someone drops your wife home.
It is inevitably a male. Your wife spends laughing time with him, before entering the house. There is no explanation about the person.
6. Your wife refuses sex
Your wife refuses to have sex with you.
She always cites her tiredness as the reason behind it. She moves to another room.
It is as though your wife has become a stranger to you.
7. Your wife totally ignores you
Your wife no longer caters to any of your needs. She does not cook for you.
She ignores your presence. She never watches TV with you.
She never laughs with you. Your wife totally isolates herself from you.
8. Your wife goes out without you
Your wife no longer wants to go out with you.
Whenever she goes out, she does not tell you where she is going. And invariably she returns home after a long time.
There is no explanation about where she went and with whom.
It is as though your wife no longer cares about your feelings.
9. Your wife never answers your call
Whenever you call your wife, she never picks up your call.
She never calls you back, even after seeing your missed call.
She never bothers to explain why she did not answer you.
10. Your wife never cares for her children
When your wife is unfaithful, she finds her children a great distraction.
She needlessly yells at them when they go to her.
She never takes them out. She never accompanies you for a family outing.
Your unfaithful wife ceases to be a good mother to your children.
Conclusion
You feel emotionally shattered by the behavior of your unfaithful wife, aren’t you?
What should you do?
You should definitely confront your wife, if your suspicion has a firm ground.
It will be good for your marriage if she comes to her senses and returns to the family fold.
But if she is adamant about her affair, it will be near impossible to save your marriage.
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