Your marriage is over, when you do not see eye to eye with your partner for almost everything.
When your relationship with your partner is compatible, you enjoy every moment of it. But when you face constant relationship issues with your partner, you cannot enjoy even one moment of your married life. When your relationship is plagued with issues, you become emotionally detached from your partner so much so, that you feel as though you are living with a stranger.
When you scarcely interact with your partner, silence is predominant in your home. You become emotionally indifferent towards your partner, that you are unmoved by his\her problems and pressures.
You marry your partner, out of your intense love for him\her. But strangely, you lose your love, after a few years of togetherness. You live through your relationship, out of compulsion and not out of love.
This is not the way to live through your married life. Your marriage needs many unique qualities, if it must enjoy stability and longevity. It is sad, that you do not understand that your marriage cannot survive on its own. Only you can make it survive. Only you can make it enjoyable.
- You must be committed towards your family.
- You must overlook the minor faults of your spouse.
- You must forgive and forget the resentment you felt against your partner.
- Your relationship should have, mutual respect and mutual trust.
- You must be appreciative towards your partner.
- You must act protective towards your partner, so that no one dares to demean him\her.
Can you say with confidence, that your married life enjoys these unique qualities?
No.
You cannot.
When your marriage is not embedded with these qualities, it is only a matter of time before it sinks towards its inevitable failure.
Shall we now have a glimpse into the warning signs that your marriage is over?
No 1. Sign your marriage is over -. You have nothing to talk with your partner
Before marriage you had so much to talk with your partner. You were glued to your mobile phone, talking excitedly with your partner. But after your marriage, your interaction with your partner becomes infrequent and scarce.
If at all you interact with your partner, it is almost always about some niggling family issues. Even this sort of an interaction between you, ends in bitter arguments and confrontation between you. Your constant tiffs with your partner makes you feel, that spending time alone is better than spending time with him\her.
No 2. Sign that your marriage is over – You do not like coming home after your work
When you enjoy a good relationship with your partner, you will be raring to go home after your work is over. You long to spend time with your family, after your hectic day in your work place.
But when your relationship is sailing in troubled waters, you hate to go home. You shirk back from returning to your home, as your mind is troubled by the unhappy relationship you have with your partner.
So, you lie about your heavy workload and stay back until very late. Even after returning home, you spend your time alone, without exchanging a word with your partner.
No 3. Sign that your marriage is over – You intentionally wound the sensitivity of your partner
When love has ceased to exist between you, you no longer care for the sensitivity of your partner. You do not care if you hurt him\her.
Whenever you have mood swings, you insult your partner in the worst possible manner. You treat your partner more like a dustbin, to throw all your anger and frustration you feel against her\him.
Many a time, you utter demeaning words that deeply hurt the self-respect of your spouse. But even after knowing that you had exceeded your limits in hurting your partner, you do not offer a word of apology to him\her.
No 4. Sign that your marriage is over – You act hiding and secretive
When there is true love between you, you do not hide anything from your partner. Your life is an open secret to your partner.
But when there is no love between you, you become secretive and mysterious. You do not inform your spouse about your whereabouts. You are glued to your mobile for hours together, without informing your partner about the person you were talking with.
Your partner is clueless about your income, your salary hike or your bonus. You have many social media friends, about whom your partner has no idea. When such total secrecy shrouds your relationship, it is only natural that your partner feels completely isolated from you.
No 5. Sign that your marriage is over – There is no sex between you
As a normal loving couple, you had regular sex with your partner. You adored the physical intimacy you enjoyed with your partner.
But when you are living through a troubled marriage, you avoid sex with your partner. In fact, you hate to sleep in the same room with him\her. So, you shift to another room to avoid any physical contact with your partner.
You do not give any explanations to your partner, as you are not bothered about his\her feelings.
No 6. Sign that your marriage is over – Your arguments turn into bitter fights
It is very normal to have arguments with your spouse. After your anger is over, you apologize to your partner, and your relationship is back to normal.
But in your loveless marriage, you fight for everything and anything. Whenever you fight with your partner, you act as though you are fighting with your enemy. Your words are that harsh and wounding.
You utter demeaning words with the sole intention of hurting your spouse. You verbally and physically abuse him\her, and feel no sense of remorse in doing so.
No 7. Sign that your marriage is over – There is no trust
A marriage without trust cannot survive. Trust is the cementing agent of your relationship. You must trust your partner, and he\she must trust you. When trust is lost, all hopes of reviving your marriage is also lost.
Implicit trust is very essential in making your marriage withstand the ups and downs of your relationship. But in your loveless marriage, there is absolutely no trust between you. When there is no trust between you, it simply means that your marriage is not working as it should.
No 8. Sign your marriage is over – You have extra marital flings
When you step outside the marriage zone to seek another relationship, you spell doom to your marriage. Nothing hurts a marriage, as much as an extramarital affair.
The damage it does to your marriage is mind blowing.
When you love your spouse, you would never dream of cheating him\her. But when all love is lost between you, you easily cross the border.
Conclusion
‘You can never be happily married to another until you get a divorce from yourself. Successful marriage demands a certain death of self’- Jerry McCant
Can you see the devastating signs that signify that your marriage is over?
Sort out the issues between you, as soon as you detect early signals of troubles in your marriage. Otherwise, it would be impossible to prevent the doom of your marriage.
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