You experience tremendous emotional upheaval when you have a physically challenged child.
‘Obviously, because of my disability, I need assistance. But I have always tried to overcome the limitations of my condition and lead as full a life as possible. I have traveled the world, from the Antarctic to zero gravity.’ –Stephan Hawking
You find it impossible to withstand the trauma of seeing your child disabled. Your heart screams in agony when your physically challenged child is totally dependent on you for his day-to-day activities.
‘Who will look after my physically challenged child after my death’ you agonizingly ask yourself many a time.
But you cannot afford to sit back in agony and anguish. Now is the time for you to be mentally strong and courageous.
Do you know many renowned persons were physically challenged?
They overcame their disability to achieve incredible fame in their field.
Ludwig van Beethoven had hearing impairment – he was considered the greatest composer of all times.
Stephan Hawking has amyotrophic lateral sclerosis –he is a great theoretical physicist and cosmologist.
Helen Adam Keller had the adversity of being blind and deaf – she was a political activist, author and lecturer.
John Milton was blind – he was a great English poet.
These people overcame their disability by the sheer force of their mental strength.
I was very impressed by a reality TV show in India. Physically challenged people danced with great agility. They sang as well as anyone. They played musical instruments with great flair.
They were better than most of us normal people.
They exhibited such talent that they cannot be called lesser to anyone. I could only salute the parents who had brought forth such hidden talents from their physically challenged child.
How to take care of your physically challenged child? He is not less to anyone
Your initial problem is to make your child realize that he is not a lesser person to anyone.
- Never talk negatively to your child as it instills in him a feeling of incapability.
- Encourage your physically challenged child to bring forth his hidden talent.
- Inculcate self-confidence in your child as this helps him survive this harsh world.
- Allow him to mingle with other children as it makes him feel included in the society.
- When you prevent him from mingling with other children he grows up feeling that he is not normal and lacks something which others have got.
- Appreciate whatever small success he achieves so that he feels worthy.
- Buy your child devices which helps him handle his life better.
- Consult a specialist and buy him the best gadgets available.
- Train him to handle his personal needs by himself so that he does not depend on you for his day-to-day ablutions.
There are various institutions that cater to different types of physically challenged children. Admit your child in an intuition which caters to his particular physical challenge.
Consult a specialist for advice to look after your physically challenged child.
There are exercises, mental games and counseling which helps your child in many ways.
There are communities which have parents of likewise handicapped children. When you interact with them you get lots of new ideas about the ways to deal with such a disability.
It also makes you feel psychologically better when you know that you are not a lone sufferer.
Always encourage your physically challenged child.
Never be partial towards your other normal children. Your partiality makes your child feel depressed and miserable.
You should make him feel that he can depend on you for emotional support and care. This emotional security is very important to make your child feel sheltered and cared.
Always include your physically challenged child in preparing for every family functions. If you exclude him because of his inability it makes him a loner. He develops many complexities. This makes him recluse like. He becomes averse to face the outside world – a very dangerous incapacity worse than his\her physical inability.
Teach him to be courageous to face life in all its harshness.
Do not make him feel handicapped by hovering over him. It makes him feel handicapped.
Don’t be too protective towards him to make him feel that something is wrong with him.
The need of the hour is your inner stability and mental grit. You also need the intelligence to make your physically challenged child feel that he is as worthy as everyone.