Do you often break your head about what the silence of your husband indicates?
The unnatural silence of your husband unnerves you, doesn’t it?
- When you talk, your husband never replies and is ominously silent.
- When you are angry, he looks wooden and deadpan.
- When you say loving words, he never reacts.
- When you want an explanation, he never gives it.
Do you think he approves of whatever you do when he keeps mum.
The silence of your husband speaks million hidden messages. You have to enter his male world to understand it.
The silence of your husband is his way of saying he is not comfortable with you
1. He does not agree with you
Your husband keeps mum when he does not agree with you.
You always feel you have more capacity to handle family issues than him.
So you want your ideas to be implemented to the dot. When your husband tentatively recommends diversified views you never agree to his suggestions.
Your husband shrinks inside in frustration and resentment. He wants to point out that he too has rights towards the family. But he dare not.
He does not have the capacity to reel out the reasons why he does not like your ideas for the family.
Your husband knows he cannot match the procession of accusations you readily dig up.
You often wonder why he cannot be more open and frank to declare his dissent.
You must know that the silence of your husband is his male nature of showing his dislike.
2. He is angry
Anger is yet another reason for the silence of your husband. When there is silence at home it should be comfortable and not uneasy.
When your husband is angry his silence is very disturbing and confusing to you. His face is sullen. He keeps to himself.
There are various reasons for his anger.
He might be angry because of work related stress. He does not share it with you as he feels you will not understand it.
He might be angry when you cook him an uninteresting meal. Your husband gives great importance to the needs of his stomach.
Yet another male nature.
Instead of voicing his disapproval he keeps his mouth clamped.
You feel your husband’s silence is more torturous than his words, don’t you?
3. He is unhappy
Your husband as a man is very egoistic. He wants to dominate you. But sadly he finds it impossible as your efficiency makes you more than equal to him.
Your financial independence unnerves your husband. Your confidence makes him feel very inferior to you. You are very decisive in dealing with family issues while he is not.
The ego of your husband is time and again bruised when you make it obvious that you have more proficiency than him.
He feels shattered when you dominate him in family matters. He is very unhappy that he is no longer the head of the family.
So he becomes silent and closed.
Your husband’s silence also signifies his unhappiness.
4. He is uneasy in your company
He feels you fight without reason. He is confused when you dig up old fights which he thought was long over.
He is taken aback when you remember word by word accusations both exchanged in an argument.
He had completely forgotten it. But your memory for such things is awesome.
It is your womanly weapon, isn’t it?
When you nag him about his irresponsibility he feels very uneasy in your company. When you are very criticizing it makes him feel very uncomfortable at home.
He fears your anger. He fears your nagging. He fears your tongue lashing.
The silence of your husband is his way of showing his discomfort.
5. Your husband is deeply hurt
As a woman you openly display your anger or sorrow.
But your husband hides his emotions as he feels it is not manly to demonstrate it.
When your words hurt him deeply he becomes aloof. When you compare him with others he becomes totally isolated from you.
He shows his intense hurt through his silence.
Can you see the hidden messages behind your husband’s silence?
Don’t take his silence as his approval for everything you do. Look out for his concealed feelings. When your husband is unnaturally silent lot of things are going in his mind. He becomes silence personified when you keep on needling him.
You don’t want it, do you?