Do you know communication in marriage is so important that it decides the happiness quotient of your relationship?
Most of you never pay a great deal of attention to the way you interact with your spouse. You feel communication in marriage is just talking with him\her.
No.
It is not so.
Communication is a tool which conveys your emotions to your spouse through your words and actions. If you take this aspect in your marriage too lightly, it creates tons of misunderstandings between you.
Here is why communication in marriage is important.
- Wrong words you choose to utter against your spouse damages your marriage as nothing else can do.
- And the tone of your voice can make your wrong words sound even more contemptuous and degrading to your spouse.
- And your body language when you utter those wrong words makes it sound all the more lethal.
Are you confused about what I am implying?
Let me explain.
- You communicate with your spouse verbally.
- You modulate your voice to add more meaning to your words.
- You also use your body language to enhance the words you speak.
These three aspects in your communication with your spouse literally decides the mood of your interaction.
Is it not it a fact that you do not know that your spouse sees and feels many things in the way you communicate with him\her?
Most of you do not know the power of the words you use when communicating with your spouse.
It is time you realized that words can make or break your marriage.
Most of you also never know the power of your voice modulation when you interact with your spouse.
Your tone when you talk with your spouse conveys many hidden messages to him\her.
The derisive tenor in your voice makes your words sound tremendously wounding and hurting to your spouse.
The high pitch in your voice makes you sound controlling and dominating to your spouse.
So, realize that you should concentrate on the way you speak with your spouse.
You also never know the power of your body language because it is an integral part of your communication.
Though, you may not utter words that convey your real feelings about your spouse in words, your body language hides nothing.
Rolling your eyes, looking away when your spouse is talking with you and many more such negative body language you often use is destructive to your marriage.
Can you see how there are many angles to communication in marriage?
The words you speak, how you speak and how you use your body language are all part of communication in marriage.
Why are your words important in your communication?
It is because words have the power of showing what is in your mind. When you utter degrading words, it leaves behind a scar which your spouse finds it very difficult to forget.
Why is your voice modulation important to communication in marriage?
The way you speak to your spouse is keenly watched by him\her.
When you raise your voice to convey your anger or dissent, your spouse becomes hostile just by your tone. The loud and commanding tone of your voice makes the hackles of your spouse rise with fury.
Why is your body language important in communication in marriage?
You might hide your feelings from your spouse. You might not openly talk about it. But your body language hides nothing. It displays what is in your mind, openly and bluntly.
It is sad that you never knew these angles in your communication with your spouse. You speak without thinking about the feelings of your spouse, and lead your marriage towards its inevitable failure.
It is not as though you do not know how to communicate. You know the perfect art of communicating with your colleagues\friends\strangers.
You are very skilled in communicating in your workplace. You know the right words to talk with your colleagues.
You are perfect in knowing how to interact even with strangers. You pay so much great attention to the words you speak with others.
Have you spurted out in volatile anger in your workplace?
No.
You do not.
You know your unwarranted words could jeopardize your work. So, even when your colleagues rub you the wrong way, you do not react with anger. You are intelligent enough to manage the situation with apt diplomacy.
But somehow you falter and fumble when interacting with your spouse. You often put your foot in your mouth by making unwarranted comments about your spouse.
When you scarcely notice how you are communicating with your spouse, it spells danger to your marriage.
Strangely, you knew perfectly well how to communicate with your spouse in the early days of your marriage.
In the newness of your marriage, you uttered the right words when you interacted with your spouse. You used perfect voice modulation. Your body language was also near flawless.
But after a few years of marriage, it is as though you forgot how to communicate with your spouse.
You utter bitter words against your spouse as though he\she is your enemy.
Your tone is often derisive, deadpan, emotionless, sarcastic, skeptical and contemptuous.
Your body language conveys many degrading messages to your spouse.
There are no more endearing words.
No more pacifying words.
No more comforting words.
Why does your communication with your spouse lose the love effect after your marriage?
It is because you become rash and impatient. You lose interest in interacting with your spouse. You take your spouse so much for granted that you vent all your frustrations on him\her.
How can you expect peace in your marriage when you do not know the art of communicating?
Advice for husband to know how to interact with his wife!
Are you a husband who does not know how to communicate with your wife?
You are often wooden and emotionless when you interact with your wife. You never understand that your wife yearns for kind words from you. Your wife wants her contribution towards the family to be acknowledged by you.
- Your wife wants to hear you appreciate her.
- She wants you to demonstrate your love for her.
- Your wife wants to hear words of emotional support from you.
- Communicate with your wife and make her feel that you love and adore her. If you do so, you will have a wonderful wife who would go to any extreme to make you happy.
- Never ever communicate with harshness when your wife is off color.
The simplest trick to make your wife happy is to convey the message “you are the queen of my life.”
And you can do it only when you communicate with your wife with love and care.
Advice for wife to know how to talk with her husband.
Are you a wife who communicates with your husband only to compare him with others and thereby make his ego punctured?
- Your husband dislikes your communication when you compare him with others.
- Your husband hates it when you raise your voice aggressively.
- Your husband dislikes you when you order him about.
- Your husband wants to get away from you when you nag.
- He wants you to be calm when he is angry.
- Your husband wants you to stop talking when he just wants to unwind.
So, both need to pay attention to the way you interact with each other.
Unsaid words in your communication destroys your relationship.
Unwanted words in your interaction kills your marriage.
The simplest way of good communication in marriage is to look out for the mood of your spouse and say the right words in the right tone.
Conclusion
Can you see that knack of communication is not only for your success in your work, but also for the success of your marriage?
When you communicate just to vent your frustration and resentment against your spouse, it creates a deep wedge between you.
Talk lovingly when your spouse is depressed.
Talk firmly when your spouse tries to take over your life.
Never talk when your anger is raw and vivid.
Keep your distance when your spouse is out of mood.
Can you see that communication in marriage just means knowing when to talk, what to talk and how to talk?
When you master this art, your married life would be what you dreamed of.
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