You want nothing more than a healthy relationship with your spouse, don’t you?
Do you know why?
It is because, a healthy relationship with your spouse becomes your emotional sanctuary. It makes you enjoy your married life, without feeling unloved and uncared.
But sadly, most of you feel you are in an unhealthy relationship. In fact, you feel your marriage is a disaster, as your relationship with your spouse is full of contempt, indifference, incompatibility, and complete lack of love.
In modern marriages. it is common to see couples drifting apart from each other, just after a few years of togetherness.
- Your love for your spouse, loses its sheen very quickly.
- You search for topics to talk with your spouse.
- You cease to give emotional support to your spouse.
- You become indifferent towards the feelings of your spouse.
When your married life becomes so staid and mundane, it is surprising that you no longer enjoy your relationship with your spouse.
But, there is a molecule fraction of couples, who enjoy a healthy relationship.
Here are the top qualities they practice with loving sincerity.
They give emotional support to each other.
Their relationship is compatible and stress free.
There is no one-sidedness in their relationship.
Sadly, such couples are rare and far in between.
Do you envy couples who enjoy such healthy relationship?
Do not worry.
You too can enjoy your marriage.
All you have to do is to embed these good qualities which exists only in a healthy relationship.
1. Uncensored communication
How will you feel when you have to think twice before saying anything to your spouse?
You feel irritated and frustrated.
How will you feel when your words are misconstrued by your spouse?
You hesitate, and pause before talking with your spouse. You hide your true feelings from your spouse, for the fear of being misunderstood by him\her.
Yes!
In an unhealthy relationship, couples hesitate to communicate with each other.
Do you know without communication, your marriage lacks the basic quality of a healthy relationship?
When you enjoy good compatibility with your spouse, you feel free to talk about anything under the sky with him\her. You tease each other. There is humor in your relationship.
You have the confidence of pinpointing the mistakes of your spouse, as you know he\she will understand your true intention.
You too, are sportive towards your spouse.
Friendly interaction with each other, is a topmost quality of a healthy relationship.
2. You are empathetic
Most of you feel embittered when your spouse is selfish and self-centered. You feel neglected, when your spouse thinks about your emotions from your angle.
When your spouse thinks and acts only according to his\her wish, you cannot enjoy your marriage.
In a healthy relationship, there is no place for selfishness, as you work as a team.
You understand your spouse from his point of view. Your spouse too, understands your emotions from your point of view.
3. There are no accusing games
You do not isolate yourself from family issues, and put total blame on your spouse for every mishaps in your family life.
Your spouse too, does not play the accusing game.
You are kind to the faults of your spouse, in your healthy relationship. If at all you have to point out the faults of your spouse, you do it the right way and not in an accusing way.
4. You are loyal to each other
Honesty is the best policy of your healthy relationship.
You are transparent and frank with your spouse. You do not hide anything from him\her.
Your spouse knows about your money dealings. He\she knows about your friends.
Both never cross your limits when interacting with the opposite sex.
5. Both have mutual discussion
The missing element in an unhealthy relationship, is that both do not discuss important family issues together.
Both take arbitrary decision, expecting your spouse to agree to it. Invariably, it creates untold anger and resentment in your relationship.
But this never happens in your healthy relationship.
Both discuss about important family matters.
You do not feel egoistic to agree with your spouse, if his\her views are better than yours. You sort out your differences in a friendly manner.
6. You are flexible
You are not adamant in your healthy relationship. You are patient and easy-going. You realize that your spouse has a different way of doing things. You accept it as a part of his\her character.
You do not pick up fights insisting your spouse do things the way you like.
This one quality takes away tons of tension away from your marriage.
7. You are responsible
Marriage is a responsible commitment.
In your healthy relationship, both are responsible and accountable. You never hold yourself away from family commitments.
You realize that you are answerable to your spouse. You never hold yourself aloof from nerve-wracking family issues, and expect your spouse to handle it, all alone. You share your family commitments with willingness.
8. You give each other personal space
You do not cling to your spouse, in the name of love. You understand that your spouse needs his\her ME time.
You allow your spouse to enjoy things he\she loves to do.
You do not breathe down the neck of your spouse, demanding his\her whole attention.
Being over-possessive, has a tremendous negative impact in your relationship.
9. You never abuse
There is no physical or verbal abuse, in your healthy relationship.
You never utter expletives. You never utter words that hurt your spouse.
If at all you are angry, you are reasonable and never cross the limits.
10. You are appreciative
Most couples feel they are not appreciated by their spouse. But in your healthy relationship, you appreciate your spouse.
You appreciate his\her good looks.
You appreciate the ability of your spouse.
You appreciate the hard work of your spouse.
You appreciate the contribution of your spouse towards your family.
CONCLUSION
“I think for any relationship to be successful, there needs to be loving communication, appreciation, and understanding.” – Miranda Kerr
Did you look at the qualities of a healthy relationship?
Not that difficult qualities to follow, isn’t it?
A good marriage does not happen on its own. You have to make it happen. You have to inculcate these essential qualities in your relationship to enjoy a feel-good-married-life.
So, never take your spouse for granted and wreck your marriage. Instead, value the emotional support your spouse gives you. In return, make your spouse feel that he\she is being cherished and treasured by you.
Yes!
You must nurture your relationship, if you want to bask under the goodness it gives you.
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