What exactly are right reactions in married life?
Is it that important?
I met my cousin in a family function recently. We were talking about our childhood days and the fun we had.
‘Do you know I got my long-awaited promotion?’ he said.
‘Congratulations. You deserved it.’ I was happy for him.
‘But the way my wife reacted when I told her about my promotion killed my happiness’ my cousin looked agitated.
I looked at him without saying anything.
‘When I told my wife about my long-awaited promotion she did not congratulate me. All she wanted to know was how much more money I was going to get. She piled up the list of things to be done with the extra money that was going to come. I felt my high spirits plunge down’ his face was clouded with dejection.
My cousin was right in feeling downcast. His wife reacted the wrong way to his pride. She did not reflect his happiness. She did not praise his ability. Her money minded reaction made my cousin feel that his wife did not share his pride.
Can you see you need right reactions to make your love felt by your spouse?
Right reactions to the moods to your spouse leads to a wonderful married life – Most of you ignore it
Unless you show right reactions towards your spouse he\she does not like you.
Marriage relationship is all about dealing with emotions both convey towards each other. And both need right reactions towards it.
How do you react when your spouse shares his\her misgivings with you?
When you half listen without being interested your spouse feels unloved and uncared.
This is a perfect wrong reaction.
When you turn towards your spouse to give him\her your full attention, it instantly conveys the message that you care for him\her.
This is a perfect right reaction.
- When your spouse is angry he\she craves for pacification from you.
- When he\she is sad he\she yearns for consoling words from you.
- When your spouse is happy he\she expects you to share it.
- When he\she is depressed he\she wants your emotional support.
- When your spouse achieves success he\she wants you to share his\her pride.
Married life is an emotional storehouse. When your spouse interacts with you he\she expects right reactions from you.
But most often you fail miserably to show the proper reactions he\she needs from you.
Take a day to observe how you react to your spouse.
You will be surprised to know how much your reactions make your spouse bitter or happy with you.
Your spouse is happy when you show right reactions. He\she feels you are a wonderful and perfect spouse.
But he\she is frustrated when you do not react emphatically to his\her emotional needs.
He\she feels you are insensitive. He\she also feels you are wooden and without feelings.
What happens when you do not react the right way to your spouse?
Your married life becomes boring and mechanical.
So show right reactions to your spouse.
Are you wondering how?
What are the right reactions you expect from your spouse?
It is the same reaction your spouse expects from you. It is as simple as that.