Do you know most couples fight while shopping?
Yes.
Shopping should be fun, mustn’t it?
Then why do couples fight while shopping?
The answer is simple.
Couples fight while shopping because of their diversified wishes and taste.
While one likes to have a hurried shopping, the other wants it to be done in a leisurely manner.
While one thinks twice before buying something, the other is impulsive and spontaneous in spending money.
While one is particular about the brand he\she buys, the other does not think much about it.
I adore shopping. Once my husband and I went together to buy some saris for me. The shopping was a nightmare to my husband.
Ladylike, I could not make an immediate decision. I kept asking the sales girl to show me some more saris.
‘Don’t you like any one sari? Why do you keep asking for more ones to be showed?’ my husband hissed in anger.
‘Until I am completely satisfied I would not buy one’ I hissed back at him.
My husband kept a sullen face throughout the shopping.
‘I don’t think shopping together will work for us. You go alone. I was so bored while you kept on and on searching for the sari, you liked. We will go for shopping together for things both are interested. I think this would work fine for us’ he advised me.
Yes.
It did work fine with us. I enjoyed my own personal shopping without my husband breathing down my neck.
Can you now understand why couples fight while shopping?
You have a different taste and your spouse has a different taste. When both clash to have your individual wish be given priority, your shopping will definitely end in bitter fight between you.
Easy ways to avoid couples fight while shopping
Personal shopping, which your spouse is not interested in is always better done alone.
Decide the budget of your purchase before venturing for shopping. Most of you fight when you do not agree on buying something which is beyond your means.
When your spouse argues that the thing you want is too costly, intense arguments start between you. So, it is very important that you sort out your budget at home and stick to it.
When you go with your children, it is not surprising that you exceed your budget.
They can be very demanding, as their childish nature does not think whether you have the money to fulfill their wish.
They just want you to buy the things they crave for.
This sets the war between couples burning.
While one wants to be indulgent to the demands of the children, the other wants to be more sensible.
Instead of reasoning with your children, you take it as an opportunity to vent your frustration and anger on your spouse.
‘You are always miserly’ this is your scathing comment if your spouse refuses to indulge the children.
‘You are too extravagant’ this is your sarcastic comment if your spouse instantly obliges the children.
You continue fighting even after returning home. Your children huddle in their rooms not knowing why their parents are yelling at each other.
So, ask your children what they need. If it is too costly, tell them that you will buy it later.
Yes.
Your children too owe an explanation from you.
Of course, your children will be disappointed when their wish is denied by you. But, an ice cream or their favorite dish will make them forget their disappointment.
The brands of the product you are going to buy also sometimes makes you argue with your spouse.
This too should be sorted out between you at home itself.
You are very stressed and tensed by work related problems. You want to relieve your boredom by going as a family for shopping.
It should be a beautiful experience for you. Do not spoil it by having petty arguments which could develop into major fights.
Acknowledge that both can have individual tastes. Nothing wrong in that. In fact, it is very natural. Make your shopping a stress reliever, and not a stress maker.
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