Do you feel emotionally shattered after a bitter breakup?
A very normal feeling.
When you love a person you build lot of dreams around him\her. When the person you deeply loved leaves you high and dry, you feel your world crumbling to your feet.
‘I loved him deeply aunty. I felt he too showed that he loved me. But I saw him with another girl in a mall. When I confronted him he is saying our love has ended. The agony I felt cannot be described’ my friend’s daughter was tearful when she told me about her bitter breakup.
‘I don’t think I would lead a normal life ever again. This is the end of my happiness’ she sobbed.
‘Don’t be foolish. Your break up does not mean your world has ended. You will meet a better person’ I consoled her.
A bitter breakup does not mean the end of your world.
Your deep hurt does take time to heal. But your depression will definitely fade away as days go by.
There are many effective ways to recover from a bitter breakup.
1. Give room for your emotions
Do you feel like crying after your bitter break up?
It eases your mind.
Close the door and cry your heart out.
Do you want to curse him\her?
But one word of caution.
Do not go into depression. He\she does not deserve your self-destruction.
Get him\her out of your system completely.
2. Never try to meet the person
Wipe away that person from your life forever.
Never try to message him\her.
Don’t try to meet him\her.
Don’t lose your self-respect by trying to win him\her back.
It will never work out.
Don’t prolong your agony by chasing an insensitive person who left you.
3. Confide in a person who really cares
Do not talk about your break up to everyone. It becomes a gossip everybody thrives on.
If you keep your feelings pent-up it will affect you physically and mentally.
The consoling words you hear from a caring friend works wonders to your despairing mind.
4. Understand that the person was unworthy of you
You know the negative side of the person you loved, don’t you?
Concentrate your mind on that negativity.
Visualize the trauma of co-existing with that negativity throughout your life.
You will now know your relationship would have never survived.
Consider yourself lucky. You have escaped from getting hooked to a person who would have made your life torturous.
5. No spying
Do not follow the activities of the person you loved in the social media. Social media can really make you feel completely lost when you see him\her having fun with another person.
Unfollow and unfriend him\her.
Delete him\her from your friend’s list.
What he\she does is no more your concern.
6. Entertain yourself
Don’t become moody and gloomy.
Go for movies.
Go on a vacation.
Spend time with your friends.
Go for long walks.
Keep yourself entertained.
7. Be healthy
The first thing you do after your bitter breakup is neglecting your health.
Don’t do that.
Eat healthy food.
Eat lots of fresh vegetables and fruits.
When you are healthy it immediately reflects in making your mind healthy.
A healthy mind easily recovers.
8. Forgive the person
Are you wondering why you should forgive the person who caused you so much of trauma?
Forgiving him\her does not mean you are condoning his\her callousness.
You are forgiving because he\she is not worthy of your grief.
If the person left you in spite of your true love he\she is not worthy of you.
Get that person completely out of your life.
9. Keep fit and well-groomed
When you are well-groomed, it gives you incredible confidence.
When you are fit, it gives you incredible energy.
The combination of both is formidable.
You easily overcome your bitter break up.
You also find it easy to move ahead in life.
10. Never indulge in bad habits
Don’t waste your life in alcohol and drugs thinking it will give you mental relief.
It will not.
You are in fact plunging your life into deep trouble.
You might not recover from it.
Your life will definitely be wrecked.
Bitter breakup does hurt.
Is it impossible to recover from it?
You can definitely recover.
Just understand that only your love has ended. But it is not the end of your life. There is much more in your life than lost love.