You often find dealing with the alcoholism of your husband, mentally draining to you, isn’t it?
It is a hardcore fact that you feel traumatized when you are married to an alcoholic husband.
Yes!
When your husband is an alcoholic, his near psychopath behavior makes you feel depressive about your ill fate in being married to him.
“I am at loss about the ways to handle the drinking habit of my husband” Renu, a woman I knew was confiding in me.
“I cajoled my husband to forgo his drinking habit. “I threatened to walk out of him.”
“However much I try, my husband does not listen to me. My husband keeps promising me that one day he will stop drinking. But I do not know when that one day will come” tears welled in Renu’s eyes.
“It is funny how my husband comes up with many reasons for his drinking” Renu smiled wryly.
“One day, my husband will say he drank because he was mentally tired. Another day, my husband would coolly say that his friends forced him to drink. There are times he has the audacity to say that he drank for one last time. Only recently I realized that my husband is an alcoholic” Renu unhappily sighed.
I could only feel sorry for Renu.
I knew that her alcoholic husband must definitely be making her life a traumatic experience for her. Being married to an alcoholic husband robs your happiness in many ways.
In his drunken state, your husband creates many ugly scenes which makes you feel ashamed and humiliated. Many a time, you want to yell at your husband to get lost from your life.
But you stick to your marriage, for the sake of your children. And your love for your husband is also so strong that you still cling on to your marriage.
It is because you have the false hope that your husband would change, even though you know that your situation is hopeless.
You want some miracle to happen in your life so that your husband could get rid of his alcoholism.
Sadly, such miracles never happen.
Unless your husband tries, he will not come out of his addiction. Your husband is the sole culprit for getting entrenched into his health draining habit.
You must act sensible when your husband is an alcoholic. You stop committing certain blunders, which makes your life even more agonizing and painful to you.
Are you wondering what about the measures you should take in dealing with the alcoholism of your husband?
Shall we have a look?
The no 1. way to dealing with the alcoholism of your husband is to stop blaming yourself
Your alcoholic husband might hide his fault by being unreasonably blaming towards you. Your husband unashamedly quotes you as the reason behind his obsessive drinking.
“You are dominating and bossy”
“You make me so tensed and unhappy, that I have no other go than to take to drinks”
“If only you were kind and understanding, I would never touch drinks.
Your alcoholic husband goes on a blaming spree about you. I am sure you are furious at the false allegations of your husband.
This is when you should act sensibly. Never let the untruthful blaming of your husband disturb you emotionally.
Your husband knows he is lying. He knows only he is to be blamed for his addiction.
So, do not let the blaming words of your husband disturb you, mentally or psychologically.
Keep your cool.
You drastically need to be calm, to deal with the traumatic situation of being married to an alcoholic husband.
The no 2. way to dealing with the alcoholism of your husband is allowing yourself to be accused
Your alcoholic husband often accuses you of many things.
And in your love for your husband, you allow him to degrade you. You bear the violent behavior of your husband without retaliating back.
Never ever commit this mistake. The one suffering from the alcoholic behavior of your husband is you and not him.
Your husband is a victim of his own fault. You have nothing to do with it.
So, do not become a scapegoat to the misdeed of your husband. Show your husband in no uncertain terms that you will never be the all sacrificing wife.
The no 3. way to dealing with the alcoholism of your husband is never allowing to be emotionally blackmailed
Many a time, your alcoholic husband emotionally blackmails you.
When your husband pleads with you about his inability to stop drinking, you become sympathetic.
That intense is your love. You keep forgiving your husband. And your alcoholic husband takes your sympathy to his advantage.
Your sympathy gives your husband the courage to drowns himself in alcohol. And there are times, your husband justifies his drinking habit by saying that he has many mental pressures.
And you too foolishly think that your husband just drinks to make his tension go away. You keep praying for the situation to change for your husband, so that he will stop his drinking.
But no.
You husband never stops hitting the bottle. He only changes the reasons for his drinking, time and again.
Only after the situation becomes too much, you realize that your husband is only giving you false promises. At least now, you should come to your senses.
You should understand that if your husband really wants to change, he would not keep changing the reasons behind his drinking.
So, do not trust that your alcoholic husband will rectify his drinking habit.
Be practical enough to understand that your husband is emotionally cheating you.
The no 4. way to dealing with the alcoholism of your husband is stop shielding him
It is a fact that you are terrified at the stigma attached to the obsession of your husband. You are worried about the reactions of your relatives, or friends or colleagues.
You feel your will become a target of their ridicule when they come to know that your husband is an alcoholic.
So, you want your shame to remain within you. You become tight lipped about your shame.
You are doing it all wrong.
Being shielding towards your alcoholic husband, is a blunder you should never make.
Because, your shielding nature makes your husband feel that you will never expose him to others.
Your husband literally swims in alcohol, by hiding his addiction behind your protectiveness. So, do not act shielding towards your alcoholic husband.
You must discuss the drinking addiction of your husband with a person who cares for you. When you talk out your trauma, it will relieve your mental torture in a telling manner.
The no 5. way to dealing with the alcoholism of your husband is instant rehabilitation
Do not put off rehabilitating your husband. Do not fear that the addiction of your husband would become an open secret to your friends\relatives.
Understand that no one in the decent mind would make your traumatic problem a gossiping topic. You should act fast in rehabilitating your husband, before it ruins his health in an irrevocable manner.
You must react and react fast.
Any needless delay might entrench your life into a deep valley of distress. You must understand that your alcoholic husband is suffering from a mental disorder.
Conclusion
Do not feel ashamed that you will become a social stigma. The society is not going to live with your alcoholic husband.
It is you who is suffering.
So, act promptly to bring your alcoholic husband to his senses. It will not be easy.
It will be an uphill task. But you must do it, if you want to save your marriage.
Did you now understand the ways to handle your situation when you are married to an alcoholic husband?
Dealing with the alcoholism of your husband will be tough for you. Because your husband will not admit that he is doing anything wrong.
It is you who must gear up all your mental resources, to handle your husband’s addiction with tough mentality.
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