Do you know money affects your marriage in many ways?
Yes!
It is a harsh fact that money plays an emphatic and unshakeable role in making your married life content and satisfied.
You wonder at my statement, don’t you?
You always felt that love alone could make your relationship meaningful. You also assumed that money is just a tool which helps you enjoy a good standard of living and gives you an enviable social status.
You are right in one way and wrong in another way when you feel so.
Of course, money can in no way make your relationship happy.
Happiness in your marriage depends not on the money you have. It depends on your compatibility, tolerance, trust, mutual respect and the emotional support you give each other.
Let us suppose you have lots of love between you, but you are totally deprived of money.
Can your marriage survive on the foundation of the unflinching love you have for each other?
Surprisingly it cannot.
Though you love each other, you find it near impossible to live through your marriage when you have no money.
Yes!
Without money you cannot enjoy a wholesome relationship with your spouse
Are you taken aback?
Don’t be.
Money affects your marriage in many ways.
You will be stunned by the power it welds in your relationship.
When you have money and good compatibility with your spouse, you sail through your married life effortlessly.
But when you do not have money, all hell is let loose in your marriage.
Lack of money makes your interaction with your spouse argumentative and tensed.
Do you know why?
You cannot lead your life based on your love alone.
- Your day to day life depends on money.
- Your survival depends upon money.
- Your standard of living depends upon money.
- The education of your children depends upon money.
- Your financial future depends upon money.
- Your self-esteem depends upon money.
Can you see how your life is hooked to money in many ways?
When there is no money in your married life, it creates tons of relationship issues between you and your spouse. Money is that important for the interaction between your spouse to be easy and tension free.
Your comfort level in your marriage is related to the money you have. When you have enough money to maintain your family, you will be surprised when fifty percent of your arguments with your spouse disappear.
Are you shocked?
Just imagine your married life without money.
Let us suppose that you have no money to maintain a good standard of living.
Let us also suppose that there is no money for your financial commitments.
Here are the shocking ways how no money affects your marriage?
- When you do not have enough money for your financial commitments you fight with your spouse for almost everything.
- Lack of money makes you feel deprived and lacking.
- When you have to eat out of your hands, you feel you are being denied the good things in life.
- You compare your life with others and become keyed up about your mediocre lifestyle.
- You are shaken when you are unable to provide your children good education just because you don’t have money.
- You are angry with your spouse when your tiniest wishes are crushed and trampled when you do not have enough money.
Modern world is very flashy and luring. You want to have what others have. You feel your life is a waste when you are denied your personal wishes.
You might be wrong in being too wanting and craving. But this is how modernity has changed the mindset of every one of you.
You are very human to want many things which catch your fancy.
When there are no enough earnings, lack of money affects your marriage drastically. It makes you very tensed and frustrated when you are denied a decent lifestyle.
You vent your frustration on your spouse by arguing with him\her about money. This makes your interaction all heated up and aggressive.
When your spouse retaliates back with equal aggression, your married life becomes a war zone with both fighting like enemies about money matters.
You utter harsh words against your spouse as your mind seethes with deprivation when you see everyone around you enjoying themselves while you have to live a life of drudgery.
Can you how much lack of money affects your marriage?
You do love your spouse, but you feel it impossible to live a hand to mouth sort of a life.
But what happens when you enjoy having enough money in your married life?
It takes tons of money related stress right out of your relationship.
- You feel relaxed about the financial future of your family.
- You have enough money to buy the things your children ask for.
- You can afford to go for yearly vacations which goes a long way in easing your stress.
- Money makes you feel empowered and well endowed.
- You need not view the affluent life style of your friends\relatives\colleagues with envy. You have your own money, don’t you?
- Money gives you the exciting opportunity of celebrating family functions in a way you like.
- You are able to plan a home of your own.
- You are able save money for your rainy days.
- You can afford to give the best possible education for your children.
Can you see the power of money in your marriage?
Money affects your marriage because of its great buying power.
It is a power you never want to lose in your life. Money gives you immense self-respect.
You need not run from pillar to post begging money for your mere survival. You have great social status that makes you noticed and revered by the money minded society.
You give your family a good standard of living you had always dreamed of.
On the contrary, you can say that money is not that important that it cannot replace love.
Of course, money cannot replace love. But lack of money can make your love take the back seat. Money is the lifeline that makes your marriage work. It is the heartbeat of your relationship.
Love and care make your relationship happy and worthy. But lack of money affects your marriage in such a way that it can make your love disappear into a yonder distance.
Conclusion
“Money may not buy happiness, but I’d rather cry in a Jaguar than on a bus.”- ― Françoise Sagan
Does this mean your marriage can survive without love?
Without love your money becomes a lifeless commodity which buys rich and flashy things for a dead relationship.
Striking a right balance between love and money is the right way to live your married life.
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