Fear of marriage is a common feeling most of you have.
Why is it so?
To you, marriage means responsibility and commitment. You are terrified that your carefree life will end forever. You fear marriage would fetter you into a world of never-ending problems and issues.
‘How can I enjoy myself when my freedom will be intruded upon in many ways?’
Feels more like jailed life, isn’t it?
Are you a man?
Here are your fears about marriage.
- Marriage gives my wife rights to question me.
- I can no longer enjoy my bachelor’s freedom.
- She will nag me about everything I do.
- She will compare me in lesser light with others.
- She will question my whereabouts.
- She will come in between my friends.
- She will leech off my money.
Dear me! You indeed have tremendous fear of marriage.
Are you a woman?
Here are you list of fears about marriage!
- My husband will dominate me.
- I have to be slavish to his male domination.
- He will never be loyal to me.
- He will laze around while I have to slog alone with household chores and family problems.
Well, you too have fear of marriage.
Though your sexual attraction towards the opposite sex still exists, you do not want to marry.
What do you do now?
You opt for the live-in relationship. You have no great fears in this relationship, as there is no responsibility towards each other. You can always end your relationship if you feel you are not compatible.
Totally, hassle free, isn’t it?
This is the permissiveness of modernity. When you agree to a live-in relationship, there is no real emotional bond between you. There is no legality in your togetherness which only marriage could give you. You don’t really belong to each other. Even a small fight can separate you, as there is no real commitment.
Not exactly a worthy relationship, is it?
Here are the reasons why you should never have fear of marriage!
You ardently wish to marry the person you love. But when you decide to marry, you have all sorts of fear.
Actually, your fear of marriage stems from the feeling of the finality it gives you. You know it is forever. ‘Until death do part us part’ sort of a thing.
- You are terrified that you will not enjoy good compatibility with your spouse. And, you are worried you will be stuck up in a relationship which does not give you happiness.
- You wonder how you could spend the rest of your life with one person.
- You see the marriage of your friends\relatives ending in divorce. You fear yours too might fail.
- You fear that your divorce might make you deprived of money, as you have to pay alimony worth thousands of dollars.
These are foolish fears. It has no validity at all.
When you are young, you think marriage as an unnecessary burden in your life. You feel you are more than capable of looking after yourself.
But this feeling disappears as you age. You now yearn for companionship. You want a warm shoulder to lean on. You want sharing of your inner feelings.
Who can give such emotional well-being to you except your spouse?
Marriage gives you real purpose in life.
It is a sacred bondage of two people from diversified family background uniting to spend the rest of their lives together. Marriage responsibilities should make you happy and not afraid.
You are being responsible only for your own family, aren’t you?
Not for some third-party. Of course, you face many relationship problems. There is no problem free life for anyone.
In fact, you face many problems in your profession. But this does not deter you from going to work.
Do you know overcoming problems together brings you even more closely to each other?
You will never fear marriage if you realize the emotional support you get from your spouse.
Do you think that without marriage you can enjoy your life?
Never.
You feel lonely, unwanted, with not a soul to support you. So, overcome your fear of marriage. It only makes you mature and mellow. It brings into your life a person with whom you can spend the rest of your life without feeling you have no one to support you.
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