Most of you want to enjoy a good marriage.
But you find it near impossible to co-exist in peace with your spouse.
And you often wonder where is your relationship is going wrong.
“Modern couples do not know how to value their marriage” said my eighty-year-old mother with regret.
“Why do you feel so?” I asked her bewilderedly.
“Modern couples do not understand the blessings their marriage needs.”
“They run after money, thinking it is the only blessing they need to enjoy a happy relationship.”
“It is sad that they do not realize that money can only give them a good standard of living.”
“And would in no way contribute towards their marital happiness.”
“It would be nice if couples understand that a good marriage needs many other blessings” my mother concluded.
I think she had a point there.
It is true that you always think that being rich is the top blessing your married life needs.
How can money contribute to the happiness in your marriage?
It is true that money gives you an extraordinary standard of living.
Money makes you financially independent.
You are able to buy the best things the world has to offer.
You also have an enviable social status.
Nothing more.
Money in no way brings you emotionally close to your spouse.
Most of you want to enjoy an emotionally intimate relationship with your spouse.
It is quite natural, isn’t it?
But often, you find it near impossible to co-exist in peace with your spouse.
Many a time, you wonder about the missing elements in your relationship that is preventing you from enjoying good marriage.
You look with at envy couples who are enjoying their marriage to the hilt.
And you wonder about what makes such couples enjoy their married life, while you struggle to hold yours together.
The answer to your doubts is very simple.
The couples you envy, are blessed with qualities which is missing in your relationship.
Are wondering about the blessings needed for a good marriage?
The no 1. blessing a good marriage need is friendliness with your spouse
Being friendly with your spouse is one of the rarest qualities in today’s modern marriages.
In this modern age, you lead a hectic life style.
Naturally, you are always tensed and stressed by your work-related pressures and family issues.
Whenever family issues crop up, you are all keyed up.
Whenever work-related pressures crop up, you become all tensed and stressed.
Your family and work-related issues make your interaction with your spouse, heated and hostile.
“How can I be friendly with my spouse, when I am loaded with responsibilities?”
“I feel so stressed out, that all I want is to vent my frustrations on my spouse,” you defend your tensed relationship with your spouse.
But strangely, you are totally different in your work place.
You laugh and make fun of your colleagues and enjoy good companionship with them.
I often observe colleagues sharing fun moments between themselves when I am in a bank or other offices.
I wonder whether these people carry the same smile and friendliness back home.
Most probably they do not.
Yes.
Most of you frown and fret when at home.
You are edgy and jumpy when you are with your spouse.
You mostly do not interact with your spouse. Instead, you dump yourself before TV\computer\laptop. You do not want to be disturbed, either by your spouse, or your children.
If this is the scenario of your married life, you are not enjoying a good marriage.
When you are friendly with your spouse, it is a clear sign that your relationship is enjoyable to both.
Being humorous and funny when at home, makes your spouse feel happy and content. When you take everything, your spouse says to you in the right spirit, there is will be breeziness in your interaction.
Friendly relationship with your spouse is one of the top most blessings of a good marriage.
The 2. Blessing of a good marriage is financial security
Money is a tricky commodity in marriage.
Do you know when you are financially depleted, it instigates accusing war between you?
When you spend money recklessly, without thinking about the future of your family, you will lose it. And your married life without money, will turn nightmarish and hellish.
It is because when you lose money, you lose the love of your spouse also. Bitter arguments accrue between you, making your married life miserable and wretched.
So, money might not make you happy, but it makes you wealthy. And you drastically need money to live through your married life.
You need money for your day-to-day survival.
You need money to enjoy a good social status.
You need money to pay your bills and mortgages.
You need money to give your children, the best education.
So, learn the trick of saving money for your financial security. And spend money for the enjoyment of the family.
If you only save, your family cannot enjoy life. If you only spend money, your family loses financial security.
So, use your money judiciously.
Financial freedom is a precious blessing your marriage needs.
When you have enough money to make the financial future of your family secure, you are indeed lucky.
The no 3. Blessing of a good marriage is good children.
You cannot think of your married life, apart from your children.
Your children are the binding agent of your relationship. In fact, many a time, your children save your marriage from failure.
When your children are well behaved and well mannered, it makes you feel fulfilled and content. On the other hand, when your children are unruly and spoilt brats, they make your married life all unhappy and miserable.
So, teach your children good manners from their young age itself.
Be appreciative and encouraging towards your children. Appreciated and encouraged children often behave themselves.
Good children are one of the topmost blessings of a good married life.
The no 4. Blessing of a good marriage is good health
Are you wondering how health could be criterion of a good marriage?
It is because when any one of your family members lose their health, you feel lost in your relationship.
Yes!
Good health decides your contentment quotient in marriage. When your family enjoys good health, you cannot ask for more.
So, never lose your health in fast foods and fast life style.
Health once gone, never comes back to normal.
Good health of your family is one of the greatest blessings of a good married life.
The no 5. Blessing of a good marriage is unwavering emotional support of your spouse
When you are feeling low and depressed, your mind seeks the emotional support of your spouse, more than anything else.
When your spouse extends spontaneous emotional support, you cannot ask for more in your marriage.
Living through your marriage, without the emotional support of your spouse, makes your relationship all the more taxing to you.
But when your spouse springs to your support instantly, you feel secure and safe in your marriage bond.
So, emotional support of your spouse is yet another valuable blessing of a good married life.
CONCLUSION
A good marriage depends on several beautiful aspects to make it a fascinating experience to you.
Do not ever feel complacent about the blessings of a good marriage.
Every minute aspect of your marriage is a true blessing.
So, cherish and treasure the blessings your marriage is gifted with.
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