‘My unhappy past makes me feel my life is worthless’ my friend looked very depressed and dejected.
‘Your unhappy past is gone forever. Why do you feel bad about it? Think of today. That is what matters to you’ I consoled him.
But my friend refused to be convinced.
‘You never know how much I have suffered. My unhappy past makes me feel very inferior to others. I don’t like mingling with people. My wife does not understand me. My children don’t love me. I am totally depressed with my life’ his face contorted in agony.
I felt sorry for his attitude.
Why should he think of his unhappy past life which was over and done with?
Like my friend most of you feel depressed about your unhappy past.
Are you bitter about your unhappy past? Don’t be
What are the reasons that makes you feel your past is unhappy?
- Abusive childhood – it makes you bitter that you have never experienced true parental love.
- Mistakes committed – your mistakes make you guilt ridden
- Misuse of money- when you misuse your money you lose it and repent about it till the day you live.
- Persistent failures- when you face persistent failures you are envious about your affluent friends who made it good.
Do you know your bitter experiences and hardships of the past are gold mine of precious lessons?
It teaches you many truths about life which otherwise you would never know.
When you let your unhappy past to step into your present life you can never be happy.
‘I don’t know why I had to suffer so much’ these words from my great aunt meant that I was going to hear stories about her unhappy past for an umpteenth time. I knew every incident by heart and I always wondered how she never tired of telling me these stories.
Why are you unable to move out of your unhappy past?
You always link your present problems to your unhappy past.
A very dangerous mindset.
You will never have the energy to make your present life a better one.
Thoughts about the bitterness you experienced in the past makes you depressive.
Never ever do that.
Does that mean you should forget your unhappy past?
You might have committed mistakes in the past. Take it as a warning to never make it again. But if you feel that the mistakes you committed makes you some sort of a sinner, you will lose confidence to move ahead in your life.
Have you met someone who always lives in his unhappy past?
Take a look at his life.
- You will find that he lives a mediocre life with no great success to his name.
- He is a dull personality.
- He refuses to smile.
- He is cynical.
Something you would never want to be.
Your past is like a reference book. It is full of valuable teachings. You have experienced life storms which others haven’t. So you know life better than others.
It is what you do in your present life which decides how your life is going to be in your future.
Your past is a cancelled check. But your present is like virtual money in hand. Your work, your family, your children are all your present. They should mean more to you than your past life.
I had encountered many bitter experiences in my life. There was a time when I plunged myself into self-pity that life has not been good to me.
‘Why do think of your bad past amma? It is gone and over. Let us live our present and I think it is going to be good’, the advice of my daughter made me wake up from my depression about my bitter past.
Now I am a very changed person. And I like the change. I have become very confident and assertive. I feel a lot better for it.
Depressive thoughts about your unhappy past makes you freeze into inaction. You can never face success.
Your life should always be like a brook, gushing with liveliness and confidence.
Your past is gone forever. It is should never intrude into your present. Your past miseries sculpts your life. You were right into stormy life. You have come out of it. It makes you a much better person, doesn’t it?