Bringing up children in this modern world is really tough.
During my days my mother was at home to look after us. We were taught what was good and bad by our parents.
I too guided my daughter about morality of life as I was a homemaker.
But today you and your spouse go for work. Your children are left alone to fend for themselves. You are so exhausted by your hectic work schedule that you have no time or energy to teach your children true values of life.
Bringing up children is a great parenting art. Sadly many of you don’t possess it.
Do you feel buying the best things for your children is your only parental duty?
You have to mold them with good characteristics.
Bringing up children – Top 5 right ways to do it
1. Be a role model
Your children are great imitators. They imitate everything. They imitate you too.
Your children learn many things from you.
- Do you use profanities at home?
- Your children use those words effortlessly without knowing the true meaning of it.
- Do you fight with your spouse in front of them?
- Your children easily develop the habit of being abusive and offensive.
Use polite words at home – Your children does it with others.
Interact with your spouse with respect – Your children learn to respect others.
So good behavior of your children begins from you.
2. Teach them to respect others
The most important aspect of bringing up children is to teach them respect.
Modern children are very disrespectful and rude. They do not respect elders. They back answer them with insolence.
Where does their misbehavior spring from?
It is not enough if you tell your children to respect elders when you do not do it.
Your children are confused when you insult your spouse\parents\in laws right in front of them.
‘Why should I respect others when my parents do not do it?’ They confusedly ask themselves.
Your children watch you keenly. They automatically follows suit whatever you do.
If you are rude towards your parents\ in laws they feel it natural to insult them.
3. Never tell lies
Most of you lie before your children little knowing they are observing you. The smooth lies you utter teaches them to lie also.
Why do your children lie to you?
You do it and they do it.
You also commit one major parental mistake.
You are too strict to their tiny faults. You give them severe punishment. You condemn their behavior with harsh words. This inculcates a sense of fear in your children. They lie to escape from your anger.
I always tell my daughter to own up mistakes than lie about it. ‘You will feel good when you confide about your mistakes. I will also feel happy when you are truthful to me’ an advice she still follows.
When you are kind and understanding your children never lie to you.
4. Motivate your children
You compare your children with others and completely demoralize them. In actual fact you compare to prod them to do better in life.
But their tiny world is shattered when you degrade their talent and intelligence.
Your children have their own pace of learning. Do not force them to be as good as their friends. They hate it. It makes them develop inferiority complex which is death knell to their future.
Never vent your frustrations and anger on your children. They feel emotionally shattered.
‘Be confident when you face turmoil’s in life’ the constant motivation I gave my daughter. I never vented my anger on her even when I was suffering the worst experiences of my life. I am proud to say we are the best of friends even after she is married.
5. Be appreciative
Do you appreciate your children?
Most of you don’t. Just as you expect appreciation from others, your children also expect appreciation from you.
Have you children done their bedding?
Have they been obedient?
Do they keep their things in its proper place?
When you appreciate your children, it sends out the message that you love them and like what they are doing.
Your children follow good habits easily when they know you will appreciate it. This is the magic of appreciation.
You work hard to provide the best things for your children. You want them to go to the best school\college. You want them to get good lucrative jobs and be well settled in life.
Your total concentration is on materialistic benefits for your children. This is yet another grave and tragic parental blunder.
Teach your children essential qualities in life which will mold them with good characteristics and personality.
Bringing up children needs your unwavering attention, dedication and commitment. It is your foremost parental duty.