When you are living through a loveless marriage, it makes you feel depressive and dejected, doesn’t it?
Your marriage means the world to you as it unites you with the person who is going to travel along with you until the day you live. You also marry your spouse with the hope of enjoying a happy married life.
In fact, it is your dream to live a happily ever after life with your spouse.
Yes!
When you marry your spouse, you have all sorts of rosy dreams that your love days will continue forever.
Your initial married days prove your thoughts right when you could not have enough of each other. But as days go by, you are shocked when your relationship become lackluster and dull.
You are taken aback by the about turn your relationship takes, aren’t you?
Your rosy dreams about a perfect married life remain a pipe dream.
The distance between you and your spouse widens so much that you drift away from each other.
You wonder whether you know your spouse as much as you thought you did.
You are time and again emotionally shattered when your married life is nothing short of a mental torture to you.
All these are hallmarks of a loveless marriage, isn’t it?
Nothing makes you more unhappy than a married life devoid of love and care.
10 gloomy signs of a loveless marriage
1. Total lack of communication
When you are living through a loveless marriage, there is absolutely no communication between you.
Your spouse never interacts with you, making you feel isolated and lost.
When your spouse desists from communicating with you, you are forced to spend your time alone at home doing your own thing. There are no discussions about family matters between you.
Your spouse never interacts with you about your emotional needs.
All these qualities make you feel very unhappy in your relationship.
You live in the same house with your spouse, not as husband and wife but as strangers.
2. Total lack of sexual life
Physical intimacy cements your relationship. Loving couples have regular sex as it gives them intense pleasure and emotional bond.
But when all love is lost between you, your sex life becomes nonexistent. Your spouse does not sleep with you, but sleeps in another room making you wonder about his\her total disinterest in you physically.
The romantic spark between you has died forever.
Your spouse is no longer physically attracted to you and completely forgoes sex with you. His\her attitude makes you feel unattractive and undesirable.
Married life without sex does not exist for truly loving couples.
3. Total indifference
When your spouse truly loves you, he\she cares for you. His\her care and attention make you feel cherished and treasured.
But in your loveless marriage, your spouse ceases to take care of your emotional needs.
Even when your spouse sees you looking downcast and dejected, he\she never bothers to enquire about it.
Your spouse does not care about your health.
Your spouse makes you feel lonely and alone by being totally indifferent towards you.
There is so much indifference in your married life that you hate every minute of it.
4. Total lack of respect
Mutual respect is very important for your marriage to survive.
You want your spouse to respect you for what you are. You want him\her to respect your individuality.
But in your loveless marriage, your spouse never respects you. In fact, your spouse is so spiteful towards you that you constantly feel the heat of his\her disrespect.
When respect is lost in your marriage, there is nothing worth the name in your relationship.
5. Total abusive behavior
Your spouse abuses you verbally and physically in your loveless marriage.
Your spouse utters expletives against you with the deliberate intention of hurting you.
There are times when your spouse physically hurt you as he\she is unable to control his\her anger against you.
When verbal and physical abuse is predominant in your marriage, your relationship turns abusive and demoralizing.
6. Total accusing behavior
Your spouse always accuses you as the sole reason behind any mishaps that happen in your family.
If there is a financial downfall, the reason has to be you.
If there is family issues, you have to be reason behind it.
Your spouse never discusses about solving family problems with you, but takes sadistic pleasure in making you the reason behind everything bad happening in your family.
In your loveless marriage, there is mutual accusations with both vying with each other to prove the other wrong.
7. Total lack of emotional intimacy
Your spouse also deviates emotionally apart from you.
He\she no longer tries to help you solve any of your problems.
Your spouse never helps you out financially.
You might be undergoing the worst period of your life, but your spouse is least bothered about it. Your might be feeling highly tensed and stressful, but your spouse callously overlooks it thinking that it does not in anyway concern him or her.
8. Total lack of your presence in the future plans of your spouse
Your spouse makes many plans about his\her future. But you do not have a place in it. You are not included in any of the futuristic plans of your spouse.
You are in complete dark about the plans of your spouse as he\she never discusses it with you.
Not being a part of the life of your spouse is a clear indication of your loveless marriage
9. Total drifting away from each other
Your spouse goes out without you. He\she has friends about whom you never know.
You never know how your spouse spends his\her free time.
Even when your spouse is home, he\she never spends time with you. He\she holds himself\herself aloof from you.
In fact, your spouse never acknowledges your presence.
10. Total secrecy
Total secrecy shrouds the life of your spouse in your loveless marriage.
Your spouse comes home late but never offers any explanations. You have all sorts of doubts about his\her whereabouts. But you dare not ask your spouse, as you know you will get a cold shoulder.
The money dealings of your spouse are a secret to you.
Lack of transparency between you makes your loveless marriage even more gloomy to you.
Conclusion
“There is one thing worse than an absolutely loveless marriage: a marriage in which there is love, but on one side only.” Oscar Wilde
Can you see how you are living through a loveless marriage?
It is indeed a traumatic experience for you.
You cannot let things drift away like this as your marriage will soon plunge towards failure.
You should definitely try to sort out things with your spouse before his\her behavior causes irrevocable damage to your marriage.
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