What does right reactions in marriage actually mean?
You react when you interact with other people, don’t you?
When others tell you about their problems, you react by showing your sympathy. You don’t just stand deadpan and wooden.
And you also expect reactions from others.
When you share your happiness, you expect the reaction of happiness from them.
When you share your problems, you expect reaction of compassion from them.
So, without reactions life would be dull and lifeless.
This is the reason why right reactions in marriage decide the happiness quotient in your relationship.
Yes.
The way you react to the moods of your spouse decides the success of your relationship.
There is no more lovely, friendly, and charming relationship, communion, or company than a good marriage. –Martin Luther
I met my cousin in a family function recently. We were talking about our childhood days and the fun we had.
‘Do you know I got my long-awaited promotion?’ he said.
‘Congratulations. You deserved it.’ I was happy for him.
‘But the way my wife reacted when I told her about my promotion killed my happiness’ my cousin looked agitated.
I looked at him without saying anything.
‘When I told my wife about my long-awaited promotion she did not congratulate me. All she wanted to know was how much more money I was going to get. She piled up the list of things to be done with the extra money that was going to come. I felt my high spirits plunge down’ his face was clouded with dejection.
My cousin was right in feeling downcast. His wife reacted the wrong way to his pride. She did not reflect his happiness. She did not praise his ability. Her money minded reaction made my cousin feel that his wife did not share his pride.
Can you see you need right reactions in marriage to make your love felt by your spouse explicitly?
Unless you display right reactions towards your spouse, he\she does not like you.
Why?
Marriage relationship is all about dealing with emotions. Both keep displaying emotions 24\7. And both need right reactions towards it.
- When your spouse is downcast, he\she wants you to react sympathetically.
- When you are successful, you want your spouse to react appreciatively.
- When you are angry, you want him\her to react by being patient.
- When your spouse is facing work related problems, he\she wants your supportive reaction.
But often your reactions to your spouse is all wrong.
How do you react when your spouse shares his\her problems with you?
If you half-listen to him\her without real interest, your wrong reaction makes your spouse feel unloved and uncared.
But, when you turn towards your spouse to give him\her your full attention, it instantly conveys the message that you care for him\her.
This is a perfect way to react to your spouse.
- When your spouse is angry, he\she craves for your patience.
- When he\she is sad, he\she yearns for consoling words from you.
- When your spouse is happy, he\she expects you to share it.
- When he\she is depressed, he\she wants your emotional support.
- When your spouse achieves success, he\she wants you to share his\her pride.
Yes.
But most often, you fail miserably to show the proper reactions he\she needs from you.
Take a day to observe how you react to your spouse.
You will be amazed to see how your reactions make your spouse happy or unhappy.
Your spouse is happy when you show right reactions. He\she feels you are a wonderful and perfect spouse.
But he\she is frustrated when you show wrong reactions.
He\she feels you are insensitive. He\she also feels you are wooden and without feelings.
Conclusion
What happens when there is no right reactions in marriage?
Your relationship becomes boring and mechanical.
You expect right reactions from your spouse, don’t you?
Your spouse also expects the same from you. It is as simple as that.
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