Taking back your cheating husband, will not be an easy decision for you.
It is because, the cheating of your husband has left you that much heart broken, and devastated. You still remember your anguish, when your husband left you for another woman, without thinking about your emotional upheaval.
“My husband had the audacity to return, after cheating me for another woman” my friend angrily told me. My friend’s husband, had left her for a woman who worked in his office. I still remember the hardships my friend underwent to bring her children up. My friend always insisted, that she can never forgive her husband. I too felt, that she was justified in feeling so.
Now, after twelve long years, her husband came back, and was begging for her forgiveness. “I can never forgive my husband. I had been without him for twelve years. I can be without him, for my remaining years,” my friend looked grim.
Was my friend right in rejecting her husband, even after he begged for her forgiveness?
I know, that it was a really tough decision my friend had to make. Many conservative couples might think, that my friend should have taken her husband back. Taking back, or rejecting your cheating husband, depends upon your mental attitude and the level of cheating that had happened.
You might feel it much easier to forgive your husband, if his cheating was just a flashy affair. But when the affair of your husband was deep rooted, you will find it near impossible to accept him back. You will be completely justified, if you reject your husband.
But what should you do, if your husband literally goes down on his knees to take him back?
Living again with your husband, after he had made you spend tearful nights and miserable days is not an easy joke. The mental agony you had undergone, had turned you bitter against your husband.
Blunt reasons why you should say no to taking back your cheating husband.
When your husband expects loyalty from you, it is only natural that you expect the same from you. In fact, the stability of any marriage literally depends upon loyalty and trust. When there is no loyalty, your relationship will lack all the niceties it should have.
Your husband cannot take your love lightly, and feel smug that you will take him back, even if he cheats you. When your husband cheats you, he is cheating the trust you had in him, and he is cheating the love you had for him. If the embers of your anguish and agony remains within you, you cannot hope to live a normal married life with your husband.
When your emotions for your husband had hardened, it will be tough to soften your attitude towards him. Even if you decide in taking back your cheating husband, your relationship will be a warzone of arguments, accusations and bitterness.
Unless you have the capacity to forget the cheating of your husband, you will not be able to forgive him. When you are basically unforgiving by nature, your truce with your husband will not last. Many a time, your anger against your husband will overflow, making you utter biting remarks about the cheating of your husband. This will not work.
So, unless you are dead sure that you can forgive and forget, you should not dream of taking back your cheating husband.
Confusing reasons why you can consider taking back your cheating husband.
I am saying confusing reasons, because you are not sure about your feelings towards your husband, after he had betrayed your trust. You are in two minds, when your husband comes back to you. Your emotionally upset mindset, tells you not to forgive your husband.
You yell at your husband to get out of your sight. But when your husband stands his ground in asking your forgiveness, your confused mind asks you to give him a second chance.
Your love for your husband had not dead, as yet. When you think back, you feel nostalgic about the intense love your husband showed towards you, before the cheating happened. When your husband begs for your forgiveness, your love for him rears its emotional head.
If you have a forgiving mentality, you can take your husband back. But you should not mince your words, when you tell your husband that you would never tolerate such straying from him, ever again. Your husband must be made to realize, that he should live within his boundaries, and not keep shifting his loyalties.
If your love for your husband had not died, your dithering mind convinces you, that his cheating is not an unforgivable crime. If you are convinced about making your relationship work, you can accept your husband back. If your husband is genuinely sorry for what he did, and if your love for him is strong enough, you can try to rebuild your married life from the start.
You might consider taking back your cheating husband for the sake of your children.
Your husband might have been a loving parent, before he left you for another woman. Your children too might have loved their father. After your husband had left you, you had seen your children looking lost and totally unhappy. You understand that, being with their father means a lot to them.
You too want enjoy the emotional security, only a united family life can give you. If you want laughter back in your children’s face, you might consider the possibility of reuniting with your husband.
You might consider taking back your cheating husband if you are practical.
You might be struggling to make both ends meet, without the income of your husband. You feel that it would be practical to accept your husband, so that your financial burden can be halved. You feel that, it is the duty of your husband to fulfill the financial commitments of your family.
You are also practical to understand, that if you decide to divorce your husband, you would be losing your mental peace, the happiness of your children, and your financial stability.
Conclusion
Before taking back your cheating husband, you must mince no words about what you think of his cheating.
Ask yourself these practical questions.
“Is it possible to start a new life with my husband?”
“Can I forget the bitterness the cheating of my husband caused me?”
When your answer is yes, you can take your cheating husband back. When your answer is no, your husband should have no place in your life.
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