You feel emotionally drained when you come to know about the other woman in your husband’s life, don’t you?
When you are loyal to your husband, it is only natural that you feel that he should remain faithful to you.
When you know about the other woman in your husband’s life, you feel it impossible to believe that he could go to the extreme of having an extra marital fling forgetting about your feelings.
Your married life turns traumatic when you realize that your husband has been cheating you behind your back, doesn’t it?
You will share anything you have got with others, but not your husband.
You feel he belongs only to you, don’t you?
Quite rightfully.
You are terribly upset and angry when your husband gives room for another woman in his life.
Should you let your husband get away with his illicit affair?
No.
You should not.
Should you let the other woman in your husband’s life destroy your married life?
No.
You should not.
Here are 5 sensitive ways to weed out the other woman in your husband’s life
1. Rule out your faults
Yes.
Your weeding starts from you. You should analyze whether you are making unknown relationship blunders.
There are only two reasons why a man cheats his wife.
The topmost reason is physical attraction. As a man your husband is easily lured by the demands of his flesh. When he is physically hungry for another woman, he never thinks twice before jumping the fence.
The male mindset of your husband makes him feel that he is just satisfying his physical hunger when he cheats you. Like going to a restaurant when you do not like home meals, you know.
Your husband will easily have sex with another woman without feeling guilty about it.
The second reason for the extramarital affair of your husband is emotional deprivation.
When your husband is emotionally starved by you, he seeks solace and comfort in a woman who gives it to him.
Are you confused?
As a man your husband likes to have peace in his home. When you constantly dominate and control your husband, his home becomes a battlefield to him. Your husband hates it.
When you are persistently angry and snobbish, your husband becomes tensed up. When you do not respect your husband, his mind seeks it elsewhere.
When you consistently nag your husband, he is at his wits end.
When you do not give your husband emotional support, he feels starved of emotional security.
Your dominating attitude makes your husband emotionally starved. When the other woman is understanding, he is easily drawn towards her.
The cheating of your husband becomes an emotional affair with him.
Emotional extra marital affair is a very dangerous relationship. You will find it very difficult to detangle your husband from the other woman if she gives him the mental peace and loving care which he did not get from you.
So, weed out your mistakes.
Give your husband comfort at home.
Stop nagging him needlessly.
Do not degrade your husband by comparing him with others.
Give your husband emotional support when he drastically needs it.
When you are an understanding wife, your husband becomes emotionally attached to you.
Emotional attachment brings along with it, loyalty and faithfulness.
2. Make your husband answerable
When you find out that your husband is cheating you, do not play the all suffering wife to the hilt. Do not think you are being a good wife when you play the martyr.
When your personal territory is being invaded by the other woman in your husband’s life, you should never let it go lightly.
It is time you put your foot down.
You should definitely confront your husband.
Give your husband an ultimatum to sever his relationship with the woman. Tell him that you will not tolerate it any longer.
Do not yell and create a scene. This will only make your husband feel justified.
Do not cry and plead with your husband to come back to you. Love cannot be pleaded and begged.
Loyalty is a two-way path. Your husband cannot demand loyalty from you when he is disloyal to you.
Behave with dignified confidence. Show your anger against your husband in no uncertain terms.
When you are assertive and pointblank, your husband will definitely will know that you mean business. And that if he continues his cheating, he might lose his family life.
3. Have a blunt talk to the woman
The other woman is a plain intruder into your family life. You should never let her go scoot free.
You must definitely make the other woman in your husband’s life realize that she is trespassing into your married life and that you would never ever endure it.
Have a pointblank talk with the other woman and tell her in no uncertain terms that you will never tolerate her intrusion into your family life.
Make the other woman understand that you will not allow her to ruin your marriage.
Do not plead with the other woman. She is the intruder and not you.
Intruders should be chased out. So, chase out the other woman by making her understand that you are not a woman to be trampled with.
4. Move away temporarily from your husband
If your husband persists in seeing the other woman in spite of your warning, it is time you take a drastic action.
You should shift to another place with your children until your husband finds his sense.
If your husband tries to contact you, you should point blankly tell him that there can no other woman in his life except you.
Do you know your husband as a man is basically a coward?
He will never forgo the comfort of his family life for another woman who is just an extra fitting in his life. Unless your husband repents and regrets his cheating, never ever accept him.
5. Your children can be your savior
Do not poison the mind of your children against their father. If they hate him, you will lose your family life forever.
Do not tell your children about the affair of your husband. They will cease to respect their father.
When your children do not respect your husband, you will never get your old family life again even if he comes to his senses.
Show your husband what he will be missing when he goes straying at his will.
Conclusion
“Cheating on a girl is deeper than people realize. It destroys her outlook on love, her future relationships, and her peace within herself.” -Unknown
Understand that your marriage is at stake when there is another woman in your husband’s life. You should never let him escape his mistakes by playing an all suffering wife.
Though you undergo tremendous mental strain when your husband cheats you, you must put in all your mental strength to retrieve your married life from the debris of extra marital cheating.
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