Unhappy relationship makes you emotionally drained and fatigued, doesn’t it?
When you are time and again abused by your spouse you do not enjoy happiness in your married life.
This makes you wonder why you married him\her at all.
You are taken aback by the negative changes your married life undergoes, aren’t you?
Top 10 signs you are in an unhappy relationship – Valueless and worthless co-existence
1. You are expected to change into a person you are really not
You are an individual with your own wishes and cravings. You are angry about your lost identity when your spouse tries to change you according to his\her liking.
Naturally you are enraged when you have to enact what is not your real self.
You have to dress according to the wishes of your spouse.
You cannot spend money as you like without your spouse making scathing remarks about your irresponsibility.
Your in- laws are thrust on you in the name of duty.
When you are forced to act in a manner totally different from your original character your inner mind revolts in agitation at the loss of your personality.
Slowly this aspect makes you feel you are in an unhappy relationship.
2. You feel exhausted and drained
Your married life no longer excites you. You no longer find your spouse interesting.
In fact you are so bored with your married life that you are emotionally, mentally, physically and psychologically shattered and devastated.
There is no compatibility in your relationship. There is no tolerance. There is no overlooking of faults.
You feel jailed in your own home.
You just want out.
3. You lose your smile
You feel there is nothing in your relationship to feel happy about.
You forget to smile.
There is no laughing togetherness in your relationship.
Your mind always seethes in anger and resentment against your spouse.
You are frustrated that you are stuck up in an unhappy relationship.
4. You feel relieved when your spouse is away
You no longer miss your spouse when he\she is away.
In fact you feel relieved that you do not have to withstand the torture of his\her presence.
If you are happy and relieved when your spouse is away it is a tell-tale signal of your unhappy relationship.
5. You never communicate
Silence rules your home. You don’t feel like talking with your spouse. You never notice him\her.
You never go out together.
You never dine together.
You never discuss family issues together.
In fact you are more of strangers.
You feel your life would be better if you divorce your spouse.
You think separating from him\her is the only solution to bring your life back to normal.
6. You feel it is always you
There is no mutual sharing of responsibilities and commitments between you.
Whether it is financial commitments or dealing with family issues, your spouse coolly isolate himself\herself till you cannot take it any longer.
‘Why has it to be me always?’ your mind screams in agony.
Your resentment against your spouse never abates. It snowballs into furious anger against him\her.
Your mind does not have fond memories about your spouse.
All that is left in your relationship are bitter memories of insults and taken for granted.
7. Your arguments are very accusing and blaming
Your arguments are war-like. There is no fighting fair.
Both indulge in mutual mudslinging.
Both abuse each other aggressively.
There is no constructive arguments. Only destructive ones.
8. Your unhappy relationship loses the fun element
You do not feel like family.
You never laugh together.
There is no cheerfulness in your married life. Only fights and abuses.
When humor bids goodbye from your relationship you never enjoy it.
9. Your children are the only connecting element
‘For the sake of my children’.
How many times have you felt so about your relationship?
If you nod your head in affirmative your married life is dull and lifeless.
When you stick with your spouse just because of your children you never really enjoy your married life.
10. There is no transparency
You feel edgy and jumpy when there is lack of transparency in your relationship.
Is your spouse secretive about his\her whereabouts?
You are naturally suspicious and doubtful.
Does your spouse converse in the mobile for hours in a whispering tone?
You are naturally worried.
You never know the real income of your spouse.
Not like a married life, isn’t it?
Beware of these stumbling blocks of your relationship. If you ignore these danger signals it makes your interaction aggressive and hostile. The happiness quotient in your married life makes a definite exit.