Unless you encourage your partner, he\she will not feel mentally and psychologically supported by you.
“Encouraging your partner acts like an oxygen to your marriage” my mother always told me.
My mother was quite right in saying so.
Your relationship with your partner is highly emotional and sentimental. You must be supported by your partner, and he\she must be supported by you, to make your relationship feel good to both. Encouraging your partner is the only wonderful tool, that magically conveys your unconditional emotional support to him\her.
Modern marriage is tough and highly stressful, as the world you live in is harsh and merciless. When your partner faces failures and defeats, his\her morale is shattered and butchered. Your partner feels so low, that he\she falls into depression that he\she is not good enough. When you do not encourage your partner, he\she is further plagued with doubts about his\her capacity and ability.
Being discouraging towards your partner, is not good for your marriage. It is because, your partner needs your support, when his\her back is on to the wall. But sadly, you are not supportive, when your partner is facing utter defeats in his\her life. Rather, you are supportive and encouraging, when your spouse is successful and victorious. You feel you are a good wife\husband, when you stand by your partner in his\her triumph. You are wrong in thinking so. When your partner is successful, his\her success is enough to make him\her feel good about himself\herself. Your partner does not need extra pep talk from you.
But when your partner is facing defeats and rebuffs in his\her life, he\she feels totally discouraged and downcast. It is at this time; your encouragement means a lot to your partner.
Do you know why your partner needs your encouragement during his\her low times?
When you encourage your partner during his\her failures, it gives him\her an emotional umbrella that you are always there for him\her. When your partner is not successful in his\her profession, he\she is completely demoralized by the stress it delivers. When you encourage your partner, the dejection he\she experiences magically disappears. It is because, your encouragement makes your partner feel that he\she is good enough. This is the sort of encouragement, your partner looks forward from you.
When your partner is crumbling in agony and shame, all that he\she looks forward from you is your emotional support. Your emotional support makes your partner feel that he\she is worthy and not worthless. Your encouragement also makes your partner feel, that he\she is the luckiest person in the world. The pleasure and satisfaction you give your partner through your encouragement, make him\her enjoy being married to you.
But in your modern marriage, you do not have the time or energy to encourage your partner. When your partner is suffering defeats, and failures, you feel it does not concern you in any way. When you ignore the sufferings of your partner, he\she feels that you have stopped loving him\her. When your partner feels unsupported by you, it could prove dangerous to the stability of your marriage.
When your partner is successful, he\she is not dependent on you for any emotional backup. The victory of your partner acts like an energy booster to him\her. It is strange, that you find it easy to bask in the limelight of your partner.
But when your partner faces failures in his\her life, your attitude towards him\her undergoes drastic changes. You have no word of encouragement for your partner. Instead, you blame your partner for his\her downfall. You further degrade your partner, by derisively telling him\her that you knew his\her debacle was on its way. It is a harsh truth you are beside your partner during his\her success, and away from him\her during his\her defeats.
When you hold the hands of your partner in his\her defeat, he\she feels that he\she can conquer the world with your support. This is the magic of encouragement. Your encouragement, acts like a morale booster to your partner. Encouragement is also a relationship booster.
What does encouragement do to your relationship?
- It makes your partner feel loved by you.
- It brings incredible happiness to your married life.
- Your encouragement brings the best from your partner.
- He\she feels, he\she has married the best person in the world.
What happens when do you not encourage your spouse?
- Your partner ceases to share his\her inner feelings with you.
- He\she feels uninterested to interact with you.
- Your partner resents your callous attitude.
How should you encourage your spouse?
- Your words of comfort and appreciation do a world of good to the sagging morale of your partner.
- Your caring physical gestures make your spouse feel completely encouraged by you. A warm hug, mild clapping, an affectionate pat, or a proud smile deliver millions of encouraging messages.
- A thoughtful gift to show your appreciation means a lot to your partner.
The encouragement your wife needs!
- Your encouragement makes your wife feel, that you value her contribution towards the family.
- Your encouragement makes your wife feel, that you are loving enough to notice her talent and beauty.
- Your encouragement makes your wife feel, that you value her opinion in family matters.
The encouragement your husband needs!
- Your encouragement makes your husband feel respected
- Your encouragement makes your husband feel, that you appreciate his contribution towards the family
- Your encouragements boost the male ego of your husband.
I am sure, none of these are difficult to put into practice.
CONCLUSION
It is your encouragement and appreciation, that make your partner feel your love and care. So, do not keep refrain from uttering words of appreciation and encouragement to your spouse.
Your relationship with your partner will feel happy, only when encouragement and appreciation exist between you. You become an exclusive person in the life of your partner, only by encouraging him\her. Encouragement is that much of a wonder tool, which delivers loads of happiness to your marriage. You just cannot miss it.
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