You are absolutely traumatized, when you see the signs your husband is using you, isn’t it?
Many a time, you have a clear inkling that your love is used by your husband, in a rather selfish manner. Your relationship with your husband feels good to you, only when he reciprocates your care and love. But when your husband enjoys all his comfort and relaxation through your dedicated love, without giving anything back to you, you feel unloved, uncared and discarded in your relationship with him.
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You want nothing from your marriage, except to be accepted as the most important person in your husband’s life. When your husband truly loves you, he will show you that you mean the world to him. You will also feel protected and cherished by your husband, only when he acts loving towards you. On the contrary, when your husband acts egotistic and selfish towards you, you feel you have nothing left in your marriage.
Shall we now have a glimpse into the clear signs your husband is using you?
No 1. Signs your husband is using you is non-communication
The way you communicate with each other, decides the level of love between you. When your husband truly loves you, his interaction with you will be caring, frank and emotionally connective.
But your unloving husband does nothing of this sort. Your husband talks with you only when he feels like it, that too about some mundane family problems. When you are unable to communicate your inner most feelings with your husband, you feel all bottled-up in your marriage.
When your husband acts tight lipped towards you, you feel as though you are living with a stranger. When your husband talks to you only when there is a drastic need for it, you feel emotionally crushed.
No 2. Signs your husband is using you, is making you feel lonely
Even when your husband is at home, you do not feel his presence. It is because, he is silence personified, watching his favorite shows, without involving himself in any of your family duties. Your husband often spends his time alone, as though you did not exist for him.
Your husband looks through you, even as you try to catch his attention. The cold look in your husband’s face when you he looks at you, makes you feel emotionally devastated.
No 3. Signs your husband is using you, is spending most of his time with his friends
You wait for your weekends, so that you can enjoy some personal space with your husband. But you are mostly disappointed, as your husband is never home during the weekends. Instead of spending quality time with you, your husband goes out to enjoy his time with his friends.
He does not tell you where he is going, and with whom he is going to spend his time with. You know about the rollicking time your husband had with his friends, only when he shares those pictures in his Facebook, or Instagram accounts. You are even more shattered, when you see your husband having fun with his female friends, about whom you are clueless.
No 4. Signs your husband is using you, is being physically intimate with you, only when he is the mood
But when your husband feels physically hungry, he compels you to have sex with him. After his physical hunger is satisfied by you, he turns over to sleep. The loveless behavior of your husband, makes your body feel invaded by him.
No 5. Signs your husband is using you, is using your money without asking you
Your husband often borrows money from you, but never returns it. You do not know why he borrowed money from you, as he does not explain it to you. But when you need money for any important family commitments, your husband refuses to part with his money.
Your husband insensitively tells you, that he has given his share for the financial needs of the family, and that you have to adjust with it. You can do nothing, but feel furiously angry at this selfish attitude of your husband.
No 6. Signs your husband is using you is when all family responsibilities are thrust on you
Your husband acts as though, he need not lift his finger to fulfill any of his family duties. The financial responsibility of your family must be meted out by you. Your husband is neither a good father. He does not look after your children, even when you have other work to do.
No 7. Signs your husband is using is when he is indifferent to your feelings as his family degrade you
The family of your husband’s family often degrade you, as they feel you are not good enough for him. When they utter demeaning words against you, he looks on as though it does not concern him.
What shocks you more is, when your husband seems to enjoy your agony. He acts as though; his family is talking out what he feels about you.
No 8. Signs your husband is using you is when he wants everything done his way
Your husband wants you to do everything, according to his liking. You cannot watch a movie you prefer. If at all, your husband takes you out, it is to a place he prefers.
Every thing you buy for your home should be according to his liking. Your husband does not for once think, that you too have equal rights in the family. Your personal wishes and desires remain buried within you, as your husband will not allow it to be fulfilled.
No 9. Signs your husband is using you is when he does not call you when you are late
Whenever you call your husband, he does not answer your call. He does not call you, even after seeing your missed call. There are times you are held in a traffic, or held up in your office due to your hectic overload of work.
You call your husband to tell him that you will be late from work. His voice does not display his concern about your overload of work. Rather, your husband sounds curt, when he answers you.
When there is no concern or care in the voice of your husband, you are emotionally destroyed that he does not really care for you.
No 10. Signs your husband is using you is when he makes you feel left out
Whenever there is a family gathering, your husband does not stay with you. Whenever your husband has to take you to a friend’s get together, he leaves you alone, to fend for yourself.
He does not include you in his conversation with his family\friends. It is as though; your husband has forgotten he is married to you.
Conclusion
A loving husband is a wife’s ultimate blessing. On the contrary, a selfish and unloving husband is a wife’s ultimate curse.
You are indeed lucky, if your husband loves and cherishes you. But when your husband uses you for his own comfort and relaxation, you can only curse your luck for having married a man who gives you nothing back for the love and care he enjoys from you.
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