Persistent child abuse makes it all the more important that you teach your children the difference between good touch and bad touch.
I looked aghast at the terrified face of my friend’s granddaughter.
The girl was barely seven. She had become a tragic victim to sexual abuse by a so called trusted relative of my friend.
‘I trusted the man. I treated him like a son. How could he be heartless to misbehave with a girl fit to be his daughter?
I had no words to console my friend.
Sad, isn’t it?
Sex maniacs are all around them.
But you are unable to identify them because they wear a mask of goodness in their face and behavior. You never associate sexual perversity with them. You trust them because they are your friends\relatives\colleagues.
You allow your children to interact closely with them as you never know their dreadful intention.
You also allow these maniacs to touch your children in the name of affection.
Beware of the lurking danger.
The target of these maniacs is mostly young innocent children between the ages of 6-7.
You should be on red alert to safeguard your children against such horrible abuse.
You cannot always be with them, can you?
They go to school – You are not with them.
They have their co-curricular classes – You are not with them.
They are out playing with their friends – You are not with them.
But the sex maniac could be right amongst them. So, make your children aware of the dangers they might face.
Educate your children about good touch and bad touch.
I know it is a very sensitive topic. You feel delicate to talk about it to your innocent children. But, you have to if you want to protect them against such terrifying trauma.
Never delay in teaching your children the hidden difference between good touch and bad touch – Start young
Shed your inhibitions in talking about good touch and bad touch to your children.
No one can teach your children better than you because you care intensely for them.
Teach them about their private parts. Tell them no one has permission to touch it. Show them how you too touch it only when you are cleaning or giving them a bath. Not otherwise.
Tell your children good touch is when they feel good about it.
Demonstrate how your hug gives them comfort and love.
Advise them that bad touch makes them feel uncomfortable and painful.
Tell them they should not allow anyone to touch their private parts.
Ask them to call out for help if someone touches them without reason.
Never allow your children to be friendly with strangers.to
Don’t allow your children be physically close to your friends\relatives often. It is not necessary at all.
Allow your children to interact only with trustworthy friends.
Ask them never to be alone with any person other than you.
When you take them out see that they are with you and do not go roaming on their own.
Tell them you are not curtailing their freedom but making sure they are safe and sound.
Never allow your children go to strange places without you accompanying them.
Inquire about their day in school. Make sure they are not tensed and uneasy when they return from school. Sudden withdrawal from you is a clear indication that something wrong is happening to them there.
Teach them the correct name of their anatomy.
Tell them they own their body and no one has rights to touch them.
Do not go into detailed description. Just keep it to the point so that your children understand your intention.
If you scold them when they ask curious questions about their body they become even more curious and probing.
Tell your children any touch which makes them uncomfortable is bad touch.
Tell them not to allow everyone to hug or kiss them.
Spend quality time with your children. Make them feel free to discuss anything with you. If you are strict and punishing they will never confide with you when they are sexually abused.
It is a grave parental blunder.
What should you do when your innocent children become a victim of a sex maniac?
Make them feel they have done nothing wrong.
Make them forget they have been abused by diverting their attention.
Take them out often. Spend fun moments with them.
Don’t make them feel it was their fault.
If you do not spend quality time with your children you never know that they are being abused until it is very late.
Always remember that perverts roam around disguised as a reliable person.
Modernity has brought many dangers into your children’s life. Child abuse was quite unheard of during yester years. But now it has become a frequent news. You pray that it should not happen to your children.
The best gift you can give your children is a safe childhood.