Do you know marriage matters a lot even in today’s modern age?
The world might change even more modern. But marriage bond will never lose its value until the world exists.
It is because as a human being you are basically a social animal.
Whether you like it or not, you need people for your survival in all phases of your life. Without people, your life will cease to be meaningful and worthy.
And in your personal life, you need someone who will travel along with you in your life journey. You want a life partner who will share all the ups and downs of your life.
You also want emotional backup when you feel drained and lost in your life. Without emotional support, you feel like an orphan who has no one to look after you.
This is the basic expectation of every human being. And who else can fulfill this expectation except your spouse
Yes!
The need for companionship exists in every man and woman. And only marriage relationship can give such a companionship.
This is why marriage matters a lot to you, anytime and every time.
Marriage is one bond which will never lose its value.
“I don’t think I will marry, aunty. I want my freedom to be intact” Sudhir, my friend’s son smilingly told me.
“Why are so averse to marriage, Sudhir?” I teasingly asked him.
“Well, it is very boring to be responsible towards one person all through my life. My freedom will be lost forever. Now, I am thoroughly enjoying my carefree life. If I marry, I will become answerable to my wife. How boring my life will become?” Sudhir shrugged his shoulders nonchalantly.
Sudhir is a typical case of a modern youth who feels marriage is one big needless responsibility.
Are you also like Sudhir who feel that your marriage will take away your freedom?
You are wrong.
You have misunderstood the real value of marriage.
It is very alarming when you see the modern youth having a negative attitude towards marriage.
- “Marriage is a worthless burden in my life. How can I live with the same person until the day I live?”
- “Isn’t live-in relationship better than marriage? It makes it easy to call it quits when we have disagreements and fights.”
- “Marriage is full of commitments and responsibilities. It is boring. I want a care free life without any commitments.”
Can you see how the modern youth is having a very casual attitude towards marriage?
It is a dangerous attitude. It is a wrong mentality.
If this mentality takes root, it will definitely destroy the family structure existing now.
Of course, certain old traditions about marriage cannot be applicable in this modern age.
Women were shackled during yester years. The yester year women did not have any financial security. Many years ago, a woman was more like a puppet playing to the tune of her husband.
But these things cannot happen to a modern age woman.
Today, women go out to work. They are at last enjoying financial freedom. Naturally a husband can no longer expect his wife to be servile to him.
It is only natural that husband should understand that unlike the yester generation woman, his modern wife will demand equal rights to have a say in family matters.
These are the changes which we should accept. But to shove away marriage as a needless commitment spells danger to mankind.
Because marriage is a timeless and priceless institution. It will never ever lose its value.
Let us see why marriage matters even in this modern age
1. It makes you responsible and mature.
Before marriage you lead a carefree life without any responsibilities. You spend at will without thinking about your future.
You are totally concentrated on yourself and never think beyond you.
But after marriage, you understand that being responsible is part of your life. You become committed towards your family.
You let go your carefree lifestyle. And you work hard for the betterment of your family.
You never thought that you had the traits of being responsible before your marriage as your world revolved around yourself.
But after marriage, you place your family above everything else.
Can you see why marriage matters to you?
It is because it makes you evolve into a better person.
2. Marriage gives you incredible emotional security.
Marriage is a relationship which gives an emotional security which no other relationship can give you.
Before marriage you are all alone in facing your life travails. You pulled along through your life as a lone struggler. When you were down and out there was no one to boost your morale.
But after marriage, you have your spouse to support you emotionally and financially.
When you are struggling, you have your spouse to support and protect you. Naturally you no longer feel alone and lost.
Marriage gives you that much emotional security and stability. You have a warm shoulder to lean on in your times of distress.
When you have a family of your own, you feel as though your life is under an umbrella of emotional protection. You need such a feeling drastically in your life. Otherwise you will feel like an orphan in spite of the tons of money you earn.
Marriage gives you an emotional support which travels along with you throughout your life.
3. Marriage prods you to succeed
Before marriage you never concentrate that much on your success. You were quite satisfied with what you earn.
But after marriage, you understand that your success means more money and that your family needs it.
You now realize that you need money to provide your family with a good standard of living.
So, you work hard and elevate your social status.
Most of you are financially well off only after your marriage.
4.You become money conscious
Before marriage you threw money around at will. You never saved money as you never thought beyond today.
But after marriage you understand the value of money.
So, you save your hard-earned money for a rainy day.
You think and spend and no longer spend and regret.
It is a fact that you learn the value of money only after you marry.
Yet another reason proving that marriage matters a lot to you, isn’t it?
5. You understand the true meaning of love
Before marriage, you never knew the true meaning of love. You had casual flings which had no real depth. You jumped from one relationship to another.
But after marriage, you become loyal to your spouse. You care for him\her.
You branch out as a family. Now your love extends to your children.
Without a family, your lifestyle would be aimless and purposeless.
The love you enjoy before marriage is flimsy and fickle. The love you enjoy after marriage is the true love you need for your survival in this harsh world.
Conclusion
“It’s so important to keep a marriage alive with small treats and doing little things for each other. Just remembering to say nice things and to have listening time is vital. That ghastly phrase ‘quality time means taking three minutes to sit down and be still with someone rather than yelling over your shoulders as you rush out.” -Joanna Lumley
What will happen if there was no concept of marriage in this world?
God forbid!
The world will be one big jungle. There will be no rules and no regulations. No responsibilities and no commitments.
Marriage matters a lot to you because it will never lose its gloss.
Have you seen the sky scrapers?
You look with awe at the tall buildings standing up to the sky. But it is just a brick by brick construction. Each and every brick counts. The cement, the people who built it, the person who designed it are all causes for the tall structure.
In marriage also, there are numerous unique and intricate aspects seamlessly inbuilt into it. When you take one aspect off, the foundation of your marriage rocks in instability.
Do not forgo marriage as not necessary. If you do so, you will feel lost in some phase of your life. Instead, forgo your misconception about it. You will adore your married life.
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