Do you know body language in marriage speaks volumes about your relationship?
Your body language clearly conveys what your mind is thinking about your spouse.
Do you think that your spouse can never find out the negative feelings you have about him\her if you do not utter it?
Unknowing to you, your body language emphatically tells your spouse, the anger\contempt\hostility\resentment you have towards him\her.
Mostly you use your body language to display the negative feelings you have about your spouse.
Sad, isn’t it?
You never use your body language to show how much you love your spouse.
- A warm hug.
- Arms around the shoulder.
- Looking directly into the eyes of your spouse.
- An affectionate pat in the cheeks.
These delightful body language in marriage builds up your relationship.
Instead you use your body language to show how much you have drifted away from your spouse.
- You roll your eyes at your spouse when you are angry with him\her.
- You hold your hands across your chest to show that you are ready to confront.
- You look away from your spouse when he\she is talking with you.
These negative body language irritates your spouse.
‘My wife rolls her eyes in disdain whenever she is angry with me. She does it deliberately to irritate me’ my cousin complained about his wife.
I too have noticed his wife rolling her eyes at her husband to show her annoyance and resentment.
‘He deliberately looks away from me in abject indifference whenever I go to him with family issues. It makes me feel that he does not care for me or the children’ his wife retorted back.
His wife was speaking the truth. I had seen my cousin hiding his face behind a newspaper or looking unresponsive when she was listing out family issues.
Though there were no harsh words exchanged between them, both felt that the other was insulting him\her.
My cousin and his wife showed their anger, insult, resentment and irritation through their negative body language. They never realized that insulting body language in marriage is more lethal than harsh words.
Your body language can make your relationship interesting and thriving.
Or boring and stressful.
Your body language can hide nothing.
Neither your negative feelings, nor your positive feelings.
It shows all your inner feelings openly and distinctively.
Your eyes instantly detect any negative\positive emotions your spouse displays through his\her body movements.
You can sense the love and care of your spouse by the way he\she looks at you.
You can also sense his\her indifference or disinterest within a second by the body language he\she displays.
Married life is getting tougher day by day.
Work related stress, financial problems and relationship issues makes interaction with your spouse very hot and keyed up. You utter words which hurt your spouse intensely.
You also use your body language as a powerful weapon to show your disdain for your spouse.
‘Body language is a very powerful tool. We had body language before we had speech, and apparently, 80% of what you understand in a conversation is read through the body, not the words.’ Deborah Bull
Do you know that your spouse analyzes you critically, day in and day out?
You too do the same about your spouse.
You assume the mood of your spouse through his\her body language.
Actions speak more than words, doesn’t it?
The way you use your body convey millions of messages to your spouse. Sadly it is almost always negative.
What sort of negative messages does your spouse construe from your body language?
Here are the top negative body language that your spouse hates about you!
Do you look away with disinterest when your spouse talks to you?
- He\she presumes you are uncaring and disrespecting.
Do you increase the volume of the TV when your spouse is talking to you?
- It signals your unwillingness to talk with him\her.
Do you roll your eyes at your spouse?
- It shows your disdain and contempt for him\her.
Do you hold your arms across your chest?
- It shows you are ready for a confrontation with your spouse.
Do you look indifferent when your spouse converses with you?
- He\she immediately senses your disinterest and feels completely put off by your rude behavior.
Do you slam the door right in the face of your spouse?
- You clearly display your anger in a way that intensely hurt your spouse.
Do you turn your back to your spouse while in bed?
- It clearly shows your disinterest in him\her.
Do you cover your face with newspaper when your spouse eagerly talks to you?
- You are saying without uttering a word that you do not want to talk with him\her.
Can you see how much you use your body language to show your negative feelings about your spouse?
I watched an interest scene while I was in a hospital. A well- to- do couple sat in front of me.
The husband was glued to his mobile and his wife looked blankly ahead of her. They hardly exchanged words in the two hours I was in the hospital. Their body language clearly indicated the indifferent status of their relationship.
Why is it you use your body language to show your anger and disagreement?
Why can’t you use positive body language to bring you emotionally closer to your spouse?
- When you look directly into the eyes of your spouse it indicates that you are listening intently to him\her. Your spouse feels respected and loved.
Are you walking through a crowded street?
- Do you immediately hold the hands of your spouse? It instantly conveys your care.
Does your spouse put his\her hands on your shoulders when you are feeling depressed and gloomy?
- He\she signals that he\she will take care of you and support you.
Do you lean back when you laugh with your spouse?
- You are thoroughly enjoying what he\she is saying.
A hug, a warm smile, an affectionate pat on the cheeks conveys your intense love, even if you never utter a word.
Direct eye contact speaks volumes of your love, which even your loving words can never do.
When you look directly at your spouse when he\she is conversing with you, it instantly conveys the message that he\she has your full attention.
Use such positive body language in marriage, often and always.
You fail to understand that your uncaring body language x-rays your indifference to your spouse like an open book.
Conclusion about body language in marriage
You enjoyed your love days because you used your body language to make your love loud and clear.
Use the same trick after marriage also. It intensifies your love for each other.
Loving words make your relationship wonderful and worthwhile. And loving body language takes your married life to new heights of incredible happiness.