Most of you feel that money brings happiness to your marriage, don’t you?
You also feel that if you had money there would be no relationship issues in your married life. And that money would solve any differences that might arise between you.
So, you staunchly believe that money brings happiness to your marriage.
You can never be more wrong.
If money was a criterion for a happy marriage, you would never see the marriages of celebrities falling like nine pins.
It is true that without money your marriage cannot survive. You can enjoy incredible social status only when you have money. But money alone does not contribute to the happiness quotient of your relationship.
You need love, commitment, mutual respect, trust, faithfulness and many other qualities to bring cheerfulness into your married life.
But sadly, most of you place money above everything else and feel it is the only ingredient needed for happiness in your marriage.
Do you know why you feel money brings happiness to your marriage?
It is because the world today is running after money. You are respected for the money you have. Money is a magic commodity which enables you to buy whatever you want in your life.
Money means power. Money means great social status. Money means incredible buying capacity.
You can never do without it.
So, you wrongly assume that when you buy everything your spouse craves for, it would make him\her happy and fulfilled.
This is the reason you work yourself threadbare to earn more and more money. You just cannot have enough of it.
Yes!
Most modern marriages are now built around money.
Does this mean the yester generation did not crave for money?
Of course, they did.
But there was no mad chasing after money as you see nowadays. Yester year couples were satisfied when they were able to fulfill their basic needs without having to borrow money.
But for today’s couples, luxuries and flashy lifestyle has become the order of the day.
You feel totally deprived when there is no money to buy the luxuries others possess.
This mercenary world respects you for what you are worth. When you see that money brings in reverence and attention anywhere in the world, you get hooked to it.
You want all the tempting and attractive things the world market displays tantalizingly before you. When you do not have enough money to fulfill your personal needs, you feel deprived.
You compare your lesser monetary status with others who have higher social status and feel that your married life is no good.
So, your mind is tuned to the fact that money can make your relationship happy and stable.
Do lots and lots of money mean that you can survive whatever relationship issues you face in your married life?
You will be taken aback when I say no.
Money is definitely an awesome tool which gives you the power to live your married life without having to run from pillar to post to fulfill your basic needs.
When you do not have money, you suffer from tons of relationship issues created by your low financial status.
- When there is no money, your spouse fights with you about the money needed for your family commitments.
- Both often indulge in bitter arguments about the financial security of your family.
- Both become keyed up with fear about the future of your children.
- Your spouse feels bitter that his\her relationship with you is not worthy as there is no money to fulfill his\her personal wishes.
Can you see how lack of money makes you so keyed up that you find yourself fighting with your spouse for innocuous reasons?
But money alone cannot make your marriage idealistic and happy.
If the concept that money alone can bring happiness into your married life, then only the rich would be happy.
Do you know there are lot of divorces amongst the rich?
Bill Gates has enviable money. And he had been married for 27 years to Melinda. But money could not save his marriage from failing.
So, money does not in way bring happiness to your married life.
Let us suppose you have tons of money but no compatibility in your relationship.
Can your heavy bank balance make you live happily with your spouse?
No.
It definitely wouldn’t.
I met my school mate after many years. She was classily dressed in a costly apparel and her car was a symbol of the very rich. She invited me home. It was a huge bungalow and I gasped at the opulence and grandeur that I saw everywhere.
“Where are your children?” I asked my school mate.
“Well, all my children are well settled in abroad. They come to see me once in five years. Even when they come, they have such busy schedules that they scarcely have time for me” tears welled in her eyes.
I looked around for her husband whom I knew. She smiled sadly at me.
“Are you looking for my husband? He is so busy with his business that he scarcely comes home. Even when he is home, he likes spending his time in his laptop than talk with me” my school mate’s voice literally choked with unhappiness.
“Do you see the richness everywhere? I am envied for my wealth. But do you know I envy even my servant maid because she has a loving family which I don’t? My maid would never come to work on Sundays as she says she wants to spend it with her family. I would trade some money to have her happiness” my school mate told me depressingly.
Well, money never brings happiness into your marriage, I told myself.
Conclusion
“A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.” -Lana Turner
Do you still feel that money brings happiness to your marriage?
Happiness in your relationship depends upon many things.
Unless there is love, care and contentment in your relationship with your spouse you can never hope to enjoy marital happiness.
Does this mean you do not need money?
Let us suppose you have incredible compatibility but no money for the basics of life.
Can your married life be happy and fulfilled?
When you do not have money, the love you have for each other suffers a definite setback. You fight with your spouse for petty reasons, not out of lack of love but out of your tension in making both ends meet.
So, it is the balance you maintain in earning money and spending quality time with your family that decides the happiness quotient of your marriage.
Earn enough money to make you financially secure. But do not place it above the other qualities needed to make your relationship thrive with love.
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