An all controlling wife literally rules over you like a dictator.
You are so terrified of your wife that you dare not open your mouth when she is around.
‘A man’s best fortune, or his worst, is his wife’ –Thomas Fuller
- ‘Where have you been?’
- ‘Why are you late from work?’
- ‘Why was your mobile always busy today?’
- ‘Whom were you talking to?’
- ‘Are you helping your parents without telling me?’
Well, these are doubting questions your controlling wife has for you. You feel like a school boy when she bombards with never-ending questions. She takes total control of your life that you feel slavish in your relationship.
Your wife makes you cringe in aversion by her bossy nature, doesn’t she?
- You dislike her lashing tongue.
- You hate her dominance.
- You abhor her nagging.
- You detest her spying.
Slowly but surely your love for her dies. All you feel is resentment and bitterness against her. When your controlling wife criticizes you as if you were a nitwit you want to yell at her to stop. But you dare not!
How does your controlling wife destroy your happiness?
- She bulldozes you like a tornado and literally takes over your life.
- You cannot do anything without her consent.
- She makes derisive comments about whatever you do.
An all controlling wife – Terrorism in your relationship
1. She controls interaction with your parents
She does not like you to spend time with your parents.
She thrashes you with hating words when you help them. She keeps a watchful eye on you when you interact with your parents. She makes unwarranted and degrading comments about them.
They are your parents and you are duty bound to help them. But your all controlling wife feels they are thieves out to fleece you.
Her unreasonable intrusion into your relationship with your parents makes you wild with helpless anger.
2. She controls your free time
You are dead tired from work. Your bones ache in fatigue. You want to take rest.
But your all controlling wife has different ideas.
‘Let us go out’ she booms loudly.
You meekly follow her command. Of course inwardly you curse her. You have to take her out whenever she demands it. She only thinks of her wishes and desires. You become a mere ‘yes sir’.
She lives your life that you feel you are no longer yourself.
3. She controls your friendship
You cannot spend fun time with your friends. She comes in between your friendship with them.
She eavesdrops into the conversation with your friends. She asks you suspicious questions about them.
Your friends are not welcome. She severs your friendship with them.
‘They are no good’ she insists.
She makes them feel ill at ease by her unwelcome behavior. You feel completely lost. But you dare not open your mouth as you know she will turn her ferocious anger on you.
4. She controls your shopping
Your all controlling wife literally takes over your shopping also.
She becomes your fashion designer and selects dresses which you inwardly hate. The brand of your mobile phone, car and the dress you wear has her controlling stamp on it.
You cringe in shame when she bosses you around before the sales person.
You cannot update your gadgets without her permission. She cites financial commitments and coolly says no. Your money is in her command. You have to coax her to part with your hard-earned money for your personal wishes.
5. She controls your entertainment.
She decides about the movie you have to watch.
The TV remote is obviously in her hands. She watches her favorite soaps while you fume inside at her audacity.
Even when she gives you the remote she makes it boring by her dominating presence. You literally want to flee away from the place.
‘Can’t you lower the volume’ she screeches. You hurriedly lower the volume as you know if you don’t she will lash at you. You hate interacting with her as she does all the talking.
Your married life is boring and tedious. Denied rights and unreasonable domination of your wife makes you feel like an outsider in your own house. Her critical eyes, lashing tongue and unreasonable trespassing into your privacy makes you want to get out of the relationship.