The break–up of your marriage has a devastating impact on you, doesn’t it?
You marry the person you ardently love. You passionately took the marriage vow that only death could part you. You felt in cloud nine on your wedding day.
You were smug that your marriage would last forever. But as years go by there is nothing rosy in your relationship. Everything in your married life looks bleak and barren.
When the break-up of your marriage happens it takes time for you to digest the fact that your togetherness has shriveled to nothingness.
When you do not nurture your relationship you soon outgrow your spouse. Your lost expectations makes you feel you have married a wrong person. You become bitter with disappointment. Instead of reviving your love you lose your marriage.
‘When you’re going through a breakup, you should just let yourself feel everything so you can get over it as opposed to pretending everything’s okay and dragging it out. – Hanna Simone
There are lots of never-to-do-things after the break-up of your marriage
1.Never fall into depression
It is very natural to feel depressed when your marriage is lost. Your financial status becomes questionable. You feel painful and anguished that all the love you had for each other finally meant nothing.
Feeling angry and frustrated at the break-up of your marriage is a very normal feeling. You are after all human, aren’t you?
But to think that your world has ended is a big no. You have to come out of your sorrow. Time is a great healer. Allow it to heal your wounded feelings.
2. Never spy on your former spouse
You are naturally furious with your spouse for having broken your marriage. In your fury you do a lot of unwanted things.
Instead of deleting your former spouse from your life, you prolong your agony by spying on him\her.
This is a very wrong thing to do. If you truly want to get out of your miserable marriage you have to let your former spouse disappear from your life.
Don’t spy on his\her whereabouts.
Don’t follow his\her social media activities.
Don’t text or message him\her.
Don’t try to meet him\her.
Don’t offer any explanations on your behalf as it is not necessary
3. Never remarry on the rebound
This is one mistake you should never make. After the break-up of your marriage your feelings are raw and vivid. Your mind yearns for some sort of consolation.
When someone offers you comfort you misconstrue it as love. Your aching mind tells you that you have found a person who would be sympathetic towards what happened in your life.
You should remember that true love does not come out of sympathy. If at all you feel so, it is going to be a very temporary feeling. If your second love fails you would not be able to bear it.
Once bitten twice shy should be your motto.
4. Never keep brooding about the break-up of your marriage
Do not spend your time brooding alone about your broken marriage. This makes you feel even more miserable. When depressing thought threaten your peace, try to come out of it.
Go on a vacation.
Concentrate on your work.
Mingle with people.
Divert your mind from your former spouse.
Confide your feelings to a person who truly cares for you. Consoling words makes you stabilize your chaotic mind.
5. Never backbite about your former spouse
Of course you are angry with your spouse for the break-up of your marriage. You want to vent your frustration by talking ill about him\her.
You are totally justified in your anger. But when you keep talking about your former spouse your anger remains vivid. Your grief gets rekindled.
Never ever do that. Make the break-up complete. Forget your former spouse. Renew your life. You have your own life to live.
You never want a break-up to happen to your marriage. But when it happens you have to take it in your stride. You have to find your own happiness in this vast world. You owe it to you.