Unless you improve intimacy with your husband he will never feel attracted to you.
Most of you think that sexually attraction is the real way to improve your intimacy with your husband, don’t you?
You are wrong.
The other day I met Sara, my cousin’s daughter. She was very beautiful and very conscious of it too. Her husband was a proud groom on the wedding day. Being married to a pretty girl made his friends envy him, you know.
But when I met them a year after their marriage both looked bored and dull. Their interaction was stilted and forced. Sara’s husband left us to have our private chit chat.
‘Nowadays my husband has distanced himself from me. I try to attract him with my beauty but it does not work. I want to be intimate with him. But I do not know how’ my cousin’s daughter was literally in tears.
‘Why do you feel beauty can make your husband feel intimate with you?’ I smiled at the girl.
‘Isn’t beauty the most wanted thing for intimacy, aunty’ Sara was confused.
‘You are wrong, dear. Intimacy with your husband needs many qualities’ I explained to her the nuances to improve intimacy with her husband.
Are you like Sara?
Well, you too need some explanation.
Beauty makes your husband feel attracted to you. But it in no way brings intimacy into your relationship.
Intimacy in marriage has an entirely different meaning. It has nothing to do with sex.
‘Passion is the quickest to develop, and the quickest to fade. Intimacy develops more slowly, and commitment more gradually still. Robert Sternberg
It is true your husband as a man is a physical animal.
Does this mean you can always magnetize your husband through your attractive appearance?
The true meaning of being intimate with your husband has a different angle. It is being close to him mentally, psychologically and emotionally.
5 top secrets to improve intimacy with your husband -Attract him emotionally
1. Emotional intimacy
Do you always feel your husband is detached and cold towards you?
You are wrong.
He does care for you and the children.
But he becomes totally vulnerable when there are issues and problems in the family. He feels tensed as he does not have the capacity or the mental grit to face it. He needs your emotional back up to deal with it.
But sadly you do not give him the emotional support he needs.
You are missing the easiest way to improve intimacy with your husband.
Don’t miss this chance. Your husband adores you when you confidently handle family issues.
‘I am there to support you in your times of need.’
I will never let you down.’
‘You can rely on me.’
These are the messages he needs from you to feel truly intimate with you.
2. Friendly intimacy
Your husband adores you when you behave like his best friend. He needs your companionship more than anything else.
- He wants to have comfortable and unwinding time with you.
- He wants to laugh and have fun with you.
But you never give your husband the companionship he wants.
Family worries make you a serious person.
You are fatigued with the overload of household chores.
You always talk about family problems. This makes your poor husband nervous.
Never be like this.
Give him easy companionship when he is home.
He admires you when you are humorous and witty.
Your personal time with him is precious. Never bring up family problems when you are spending quality time with him.
Is he watching his favorite sports?
Sit beside him and ask interesting questions about the game. Your husband adores it.
Share his interest in gadgets.
Give him affable companionship.
He now feels he has married the best girl in the world – this is the intimacy you really need.
3. Appreciative intimacy
You like it when your husband appreciates you, don’t you?
He too wants you to admire him.
Appreciate your husband when he helps you in household chores.
Appreciate his good looks. He likes it.
Your husband is infatuated by you if you appreciate his small gestures of care and love. It makes him feel great and cherished.
Your appreciation conveys the message that you like him for all that he does for the family.
Do you know your appreciation boosts up his male ego?
There is nothing more romantic for your husband than the feeling that you value and appreciate his contribution for the family.
Yet another easy way to improve intimacy with your husband.
4. Supportive and trusting intimacy
‘Why do you want to take the risk?’
‘Do you think you can manage it?’
‘You will fail as you do not know how to do it.’
‘You are not as talented as your friend.’
‘Why can’t you be smarter?’
‘I know you would make a mess of it’
Do you utter such discouraging words?
It makes your husband bitter that you do not trust his ability.
Nothing shatters his confidence than the mistrust you have in his capacity.
- Boost up his morale.
- Make him understand his capacity.
‘I know you will do it’.
‘I am confident about you’
Such encouraging words makes your husband feel worthy. It draws him towards you in an incredibly trusting way.
Understand his needs and his aspirations.
Be his inspiration.
5. Attractive physical intimacy
Attract him physically also.
Be well groomed.
Be presentable when at home.
Take care of your appearance.
Have a good sense of dressing.
Maintain your body and look trim and slim.
Be utterly feminine.
Your smiling face makes him pleasingly drawn towards you.
Don’t smell of sweat and grime when you are intimate with him. Your husband inwardly recoils in aversion. Do not go near him smelling like a live kitchen. Have a refreshing bath before you are physically intimate with him.
Be an understanding wife. Your husband loves you for it. Combine it with your physical attractiveness. He becomes enamored by you. Now you can enjoy true intimacy with him.