You find it impossible to forgive the infidelity of your husband, don’t you?
Before knowing the cheating of your husband, you had thought that you were the only woman in his life. You are emotionally shattered when you come to know about his sly relationship with another woman.
Your world is torn apart when your husband cheats you, doesn’t it?
When you are loyal to him, it is only natural that you expect the same from your husband.
What are your reactions when you realize that your husband has been cheating you behind your back?
- You are furious at the disloyalty of your husband.
- Your emotions run so high that all you want to do is to divorce your husband.
- You are sure that you would find it impossible to forgive the infidelity of your husband.
You are not wrong in feeling so.
Loyalty is not a one-way path that it is only you who is dutiful to embed it in your relationship. You have all the right to expect the same from your husband.
No marriage can survive infidelity. It takes immense forgiving nature to forget the cheating of your husband and stay in your relationship.
It is sad that your husband never realizes that he is digging a grave for a ruined marriage when he crosses his border.
Your mind is chaotic and muddled up not knowing whether to punish your husband or forgive him.
Should you forgive the infidelity of your husband?
This is the question that runs in your mind when he returns to you, asking your forgiveness.
Well, it depends upon your mentality. You can throw him out of your life as what he has done to you has given you so much anguish that your love for your husband seems to have faded.
But if possible, you can also forgive the infidelity of your husband.
Here are some sensible reasons!
1. You can save your marriage
You are totally justified if you want to divorce your husband for his cheating. But when you forgive him you save your marriage from failure.
Some years back, a famous world leader was accused of cheating his wife. It would have been easy for her to divorce him. But the wife of the world leader chose to forgive him.
When she forgave him, she saved her marriage.
If she had divorced the leader, she would have lost her marriage. But now the cheating of her husband is a thing of the past and she is happy with him.
You too can do the same if you want to save your marriage.
If your love for your husband is strong enough, you can forgive his infidelity. As days go by, your wound will heal on its own.
Yes!
Time is a great healer. As years go by you will find it easy to forgive and forget the cheating of your husband.
You will never regret your decision of forgiving your husband as in the bargain you have saved your marriage from destruction.
2. You give your children the gift of a united family
Your children love the feeling of a united family because it gives them great emotional security.
They like to live with both their father and mother along with their siblings. They are emotionally destroyed when you throw away your husband because of his cheating.
When you shove away their father from your family fold, your children are devastated.
But when you forgive the infidelity of your husband, your children feel safe as both their parents are with them.
You save your children from the multiple complexities they are prone to develop if you divorce your husband.
3. You save yourself tons of agony
When you are unable to forgive the infidelity of your husband, your mind literally becomes a storehouse of resentment and anger against him.
You might divorce your husband out of your intense anger. But even after your husband becoming your ex, you still feel smoldering anger against him.
You follow his social media activities and curse him for enjoying his life without you. You do not have a moment of peace.
Your monetary status plunges down as you have to manage all your financial commitments on your own.
But when you forgive your husband, you might feel resentful for some time. But as days go by, your relationship is back to normal and you are thankful that you did not rush towards a divorce.
4. Your husband loves you more
When you accept your husband despite his cheating, he is overwhelmed with love for you.
When you are ready to forgive the infidelity of your cheating husband, he is filled with remorse and regret that he done a great wrong for you.
So, your husband makes up his mind to vow the old love you had for him back.
The behavior of your husband undergoes drastic changes after you forgive him.
He becomes more adjustable.
Your husband demonstrates his love which he so far didn’t.
He shares your household chores.
He becomes responsible and committed.
Your husband becomes so loving towards you, that you feel overwhelmed that you had made a right decision.
5. You too change for the better
Unknown to you, you too might have committed lot of relationship mistakes.
In your ignorance it might have escaped your attention.
But when your husband cheats you, you do lots of self-analysis about your behavior towards him.
You might have been nagging.
You might have ignored your husband.
You might have been too argumentative and confrontational.
When you think back about your relationship mistakes, you change yourself for the better.
When you forgive the infidelity of your husband, you too want to show that you want to make your marriage work.
Conclusion
“Healing doesn’t mean the damage never existed. It means the damage no longer controls our lives” -Unknown
There is no justification for the cheating of your husband.
When he cheats you, you have all the right to throw him away from your life.
But if you pause and think before making a decision towards divorce, you will realize that your marriage means a lot to you.
When you have a forgiving mentality, your husband can be given a second chance. But he should understand that there will no another forgiveness if he ever thinks of straying off the line.
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