Do you know you need excellent parenting skills to raise a happy child?
It is because bringing up your child in this modern world is really tough.
During yester years, it was rare for a woman to go for work. My mother also did not work. So, she spent quality time with us. She taught us many valuable characteristics needed to be a good human being. She was our role model and guide.
I too was able to guide my daughter about the moralities of life as I was a homemaker.
But today’s children are not so lucky.
Almost all women go to work in this modern age. They have no other go. It is very important that a woman has financial independence. Otherwise she will be denied freedom and liberty as her yester year sisters.
But sadly, with both going for work, your children are deprived of parental attention and care. They are often left alone to fend for themselves. Even after returning home, you are unable to spend quality time with your children.
Though you love your children you so exhausted by your hectic work schedule that you have no time or energy to teach your children true values of life.
All you want is rest and peace as your head hammers with stress and tension by your work related problems.
But this is not the way to raise a happy child. Unless you spend quality time with your children you can never teach them good characteristics needed to mold them.
To raise a happy child needs great parenting art. Sadly many of you don’t possess it.
Do you feel buying the best things for your children showcases you as a good parent?
No.
Do you think giving your children high class education makes you a great parent?
No.
You need many other intricate parental qualities to raise a happy child.
Here goes!
1. Be a role model
Your children are great imitators. They imitate everything. They imitate you too.
Your children learn many things from you. This is the reason you must be very careful about your behavior before them.
- Do you use profanities at home?
- If so, your children too will use expletives effortlessly without knowing the true meaning of it.
- Do you fight with your spouse in front of your children?
- Your children too easily develop the habit of being abusive and offensive.
So, utter polite words before your children. Your children do the same with others.
Treat everyone with kindness. Your children follow suit and learn the value of humanity.
So, good behavior of your children begins from you.
2. Teach your children to respect others
The most important aspect of bringing up children is to teach them respect.
Modern children are very disrespectful and rude. They do not respect elders. They back answer them with insolence.
Where does the misbehavior of your children spring from?
From you.
It is not enough if you tell your children to respect elders when you do not do it.
Your children are confused when you insult your spouse\parents\in laws right in front of them.
‘Why should I respect others when my parents do not do it?’ They confusedly ask themselves.
Your children watch you keenly. They automatically follow suit whatever you do.
So, watch out for your behavior. Be respectful and humble when interacting with others. Your children too will follow you.
3. Never tell lies
Most of you lie before your children little knowing that they are observing you. You often lie to save yourself . But the smooth lies you utter teaches your children to lie also.
Do you know the lying habit of your children springs from you?
You lie and your children follow suit.
What are the other reasons your children lie to you?
- You are too strict to their tiny mistakes.
- You give them severe punishment even for their tiniest faults.
- You condemn their behavior with harsh words.
Your overly strictness inculcates a sense of fear in your children. So, they lie to escape from your anger.
I always tell my daughter to own up her mistakes than lie about it. “You will feel good when you confide about your mistakes. I too will feel happy when you are truthful to me” an advice she still follows.
When you are kind and understanding your children will never lie to you.
4. Never compare your children with others
You compare your children with others and completely demoralize them. In actual fact you compare your children to prod them to do better in life.
But their tiny world is shattered when you degrade their talent and intelligence.
Your children have their own pace of learning. Do not force them to be as good as their friends.
They hate it. It makes them develop inferiority complex which is a death knell to their future.
5. Never vent your frustrations and anger on your children.
When you are tensed and stressed you vent your anger on your children as if they were the reason behind it.
But your unreasonable behavior makes your children feel emotionally shattered.
They do not understand what mistake they have done to warrant such a rude behavior from you.
If you persist in behaving arbitrarily with your children, they gradually drift away from you.
6. Teach them confidence
“Be confident when you face turmoil in life” is the constant motivation I give my daughter.
Life is very tough and is going to get even more tougher.
So, you should teach your children the survival tricks to stay afloat in this merciless world.
When you guide your children to be confident, it is more valuable than the costly gifts you buy them.
7. Be appreciative
Do you appreciate your children?
Most of you don’t. Just as you expect appreciation from others, your children also expect appreciation from you.
Have your children done their bedding?
Appreciate it.
Have they been obedient?
Appreciate them.
Do they keep their things in its proper place?
Appreciate it.
When you appreciate your children, it sends out the message that you love them and like what they are doing.
Your children follow good habits easily as they know you will appreciate it. This is the magic of appreciation.
8. Make your children feel cherished
It is strange that after your children grow up, you stop using endearments. You stop giving them the physical feel that they are loved and treasured by you.
Never ever do it.
Hug your children often. It makes them feel very loved.
Always call them by their pet names. They adore it.
Utter words that show them how much you love them.
“I love you.”
“You are the best thing that has happened to me.”
Simple words, aren’t they?
But they magically convey the selfless love you have for your children. And your children feel cherished and treasured by you.
9.Make their birthdays special
Your children adore their birthdays. Making the day special is a simple trick to raise a happy child.
Involve your children in your preparations of celebrating their birthday. It makes them feel special.
Consult your children about how they want their birthday to be celebrated. It makes them feel very important.
10. Enjoy good compatibility with your spouse
Are you wondering how your compatibility with your spouse can raise a happy child?
Suppose you have hostile relationship with your spouse and you constantly fight with him\her.
Your children literally shiver with fear when they see their parents fighting like two warring enemies. They are emotionally shattered when the atmosphere in your home is scalding and hostile.
When you have excellent relationship with your spouse, it gives your home a warm atmosphere of love and care. You children adore it as it gives them great emotional security.
Conclusion
You work hard to provide the best things for your children. You want them to go to the best school\college.
You pray that your children get good lucrative jobs and be well settled in life.
But never think that your parental duty ends there. When your total concentration is on providing materialistic benefits for your children, you forget that teaching values of life is more important.
Bringing up your children needs your unwavering attention, dedication and commitment.
Teach your children essential qualities in life which will mold them with good characteristics and personality. This is the parenting skill you should acquire to raise a happy child.
Maharajan says
Nice study