Most of you are angry when your husband doesnt’ listen to you, isn’t it?
It is because as a wife, you want your husband to interact with you constantly and consistently. The first person you seek when you want to share your feelings is your husband.
But sadly, your husband doesn’t listen to you.
“I might as well be talking to a wall” you feel so, when you see the deadpan reaction of your husband to your interaction, don’t you?
Yes!
You are unable to understand why your husband doesn’t listen to you. He was not like this in the intial stages of your married life. Your husband eagerly interacted with you.
But after a few years of marriage, you are frustrated and annoyed at his wooden expression to whatever you say.
Do not worry.
You are not alone in feeling so.
Most husbands never listen to their wives.
Why does your husband stop interacting with you?
Why your husband doesn’t listen to you is a million dollar question you want an answer to, isn’t it?
The silent behavior of your husband makes you feel that he is indifferent to you feelings.
You think your husband has stopped loving you.
You are worried sick, that the communication gap between you might widen and lengthen.
Your husband’s indifference hurts you very badly, doesn’t it?
Well, your husband is not indifferent. There are many reasons why your husband doesn’t listen to your interaction.
You must understand the male world of your husband, if you really want to know the true cause for his clamped mouth and closed ears.
Shall we analyze why your husband doesn’t listen to you?
1. You keep on talking, not caring whether your husband is interested
You as a woman like to talk about everything with your husband, but he hates listening to things he is not interested in.
While you do not have any reservation in sharing your emotions with your husband, he does not easily open up about his feelings.
Every incident in your life is news to you, and you will not stop until you pour out everything to your husband. You do not even pause for a second, whether the topic you are talking about will interest your husband.
And strangely, you also do not know when to stop. You feel that you must not leave even the smallest of the detail, and babble on and on until your husband feels terribly bored.
You as a woman like to talk about minute details, while your husband wants you to come to the point without beating around the bush.
Solution
Make your interaction interesting by being brief and to the point. When you do so, your husband turns to listen to you.
Yes!
The simplest trick to make your husband listen to you is to be interesting. Never ever ramble on and on. Your husband does not like it a wee bit.
2. You chose the wrong time to talk
When you want to tell your husband something, you feel you must talk about it immediately irrespective of the work he has.
You never give a thought about whether your husband is busy with his work. He might be giving finishing touches to his presentation. Or he might also be watching his favorite show. Man like, he does not like any disturbance into his personal time.
Very selfish of your husband, isn’t it?
But this is how his male attitude is.
When you do not understand the male mindset of your husband, you instantly rush to him with whatever you have to say.
Your husband is livid that his work is disturbed. He is also annoyed at the intrusion into his personal time. This is a common reason why your husband shows his anger through his indifferent listening.
Solution
You must be patient until the work of your husband is over.
Talk to your husband when he is in a relaxed mood.
This is the only way to make your husband listen to you.
3. You do not interest him
Men usually do not gossip, though recent research has proved that they too gossip as good as a woman. When you talk about people your husband is not familiar with, he is plain disinterested.
Your husband is fed up with your habit of gossiping about relatives, friends, or anyone whom he does not know. Your husband is not interested in gossips about people, he is not familiar with.
You must understand that the interests of your husband is different from yours. Your husband as a man, likes to talk about cars, sports and the latest technologies. Sadly, these topics never interest you.
Solution
If you want your husband to listen to you, share his interest in sports and other hobbies.
When you ask your husband interesting questions, he more than wants to talk to you.
When you are interesting and intelligent, your husband will definitely listen to you.
4. You do not talk, but nag
Whenever you talk with your husband, you nag him about his habits and the mistakes he commits.
“Can’t you hang the towel in the hanger?”
“Why do you have to leave it strewn around?”
“You keep on forgetting to pay the bills.”
“Can’t you stop watching the television and mow the lawn? It is full of weeds.”
You keep criticizing your husband, until his nerves creep up in anger and suppressed fury.
This is yet another reason why your husband doesn’t listen to you. Your nagging is an quality, he hates in you.
When you are complaining, you sound like a shrew to your husband and he does not want to listen to you.
Solution
Be reasonable and rational. Never make your husband a culprit. Point out his mistakes in a friendly manner.
This is the easiest way to make your husband listen to you.
5. Your voice is commanding
Your husband gets wild with anger when you yell and command him. His ego is shattered when you command him to do things your way.
When you talk with your husband in a shrill voice, he inwardly shirk away from you.
This is the topmost reason why your husband doesn’t listen to you.
Your husband hates it, when boss him as if he was a nitwit.
Solution
Talk in a soft voice.
Be reasonable and friendly.
When you sound pleasing, your husband likes to talk to you.
CONCLUSION
“I know that you believe you understand what you think I said, but I’m not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I meant.” – Robert McClsokey
Can you see the reasons why your husband doesn’t listen to you.
Your husband as a man, is very sensitive.
Your husband dislikes showing his sensitivity, because he does not want to be known as a weak person.
So, your husband has his closed ears and lips clamped. These are the lethal self-defensive weapons of your husband to protect him from your wagging tongue.
Can you see that your husband becomes indifferent to what you say and gives back silence as an answer, because he does not like the way you interact with him?
When you understand his vulnerability and emotions, you can easily make your husband listen to you.
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