You want a stable relationship with your spouse more than anything else, don’t you?
It is in fact your dream isn’t it?
Nothing feels better than to enjoy a stable relationship with your spouse.
But often it remains a dream with you.
Do you know why?
It is because you ignore the essential qualities needed to make your marriage as enjoyable as you dreamed it to be.
Do not worry.
Here are simple tricks to enjoy a stable relationship with your spouse.
1. Join hands with your spouse
A stable relationship does not happen on its own. There is no such magic formula.
It needs the contribution from both to make your marriage happy and content. No one else can do it for you.
Unless you join hands with your spouse in all his\her ups and downs, your relationship will become meaningless and aimless.
It is not enough if you are with your spouse when the going is good. It is easy to bask in his\her success. But it needs unflinching love to be with your spouse when he\she is down and out.
Yes!
You should be supportive and encouraging when your spouse is facing defeats and failures.
“I am here for you” your actions should convey this message to your spouse without an iota of doubt.
Do you know it creates untold bondage of love between you?
2. Enjoy quality togetherness
You might as well say that you are enjoying excellent togetherness with your spouse just because you live in the same house.
This is not the togetherness your marriage needs. Physical presence of your spouse becomes nothing when there is no emotional bond between you.
Yes.
When there is no emotional connectivity between you, the physical presence of each other becomes meaningless.
So, spend quality time with your spouse.
Share your emotions.
Be empathetic towards the emotions of your spouse.
Understand your spouse from his\her viewpoint.
This quality easily diverts your marriage towards a stable relationship.
You cannot derive true happiness when both live together physically but are miles apart emotionally.
3. Fight your problems together
Problems are a common factor that strikes any married life.
But if you feel the problems of your spouse is not your concern, you are doing irrevocable harm to your marriage.
After marriage, any problems in your family is mutual and so should be dealt together.
There it should be no “it is your problem” sort of an attitude in your marriage.
Yes!
If you are indifferent towards the problems your spouse faces, you are missing the most important factor of your marriage – emotional sharing.
But when you willingly shoulder the problems of your spouse, your marriage gains immense strength and meaning.
4. Loving communication
Is your conversation with your spouse very routine?
It is indeed sad that you cease to communicate your care and love for your spouse after your marriage.
You take it for granted that your spouse should understand it without you communicating about it.
No!
You are wrong.
When your interaction is routine and mundane, you soon become bored with your married life.
Make your conversation with your spouse vibrate with love, care, humor and emotional sharing. Share your work-related jokes.
Spend playful time with your children.
5.Never mask your love.
Do you convey the love you have for your spouse openly and spontaneously?
You often do not.
You mask your love and make it a guessing game for your spouse.
My husband used to say that love not shown is not love at all.
How true he was!
What is the use of loving your spouse when you do not display it?
Do you know it is so easy to display your love?
Small physical gestures convey your love in an emphatic manner.
Hug your spouse often. He\she loves it.
Utter caring and loving words.
Give your spouse your total attention.
Look directly into the eyes of your spouse when you interact with him\her.
Such small and simple tricks.
But it works magic to your marriage.
6. Never allow third party intrusion
Never ever allow your parents to interfere into your personal life.
It deters you from enjoying a stable relationship.
Whatever problem you might have with your spouse should be resolved between both.
If you complain about your spouse to your friends\parents\relatives, it simply means your love for him\her is not deep enough.
7. Never let down your spouse
Do not make fun of your spouse before your friends or relatives as it builds up a sense of resentment in him\her.
Often you take it as a chance to vent your frustration about your spouse when you are with your friends\relatives.
Never ever do this.
Instead appreciate your spouse before others. It makes him\her feel valued by you.
The feeling of being valued strengthens your marriage and makes you enjoy a stable relationship.
8.Mutual discussion
Do you know when you do not discuss important family issues with your spouse, it becomes a major relationship hurdle?
There should be mutual discussion about your family life as both have equal rights towards it.
Unless you discuss your feelings and emotions with your spouse, he\she hardly knows about your viewpoint.
Discuss money dealings.
Discuss the education of your children.
Discuss your future life.
Discuss everything with your spouse. Listen to his\her suggestions. Agree to the suggestions of your spouse without feeling egoistic about it.
An easy way to a stable relationship.
9.Flirt with your spouse
Flirting with your spouse brings in incredible intimacy into your married life.
Flirting gives a romantic tinge to your marriage. You will never be bored with your spouse when you flirt with him\her.
Teasing and playing with each other makes your marriage new and fresh.
10. Plan a date
Your day-to-day life is often hectic and hurried.
So, you are often unable to enjoy romance in your married life as you are always fatigued and tired. You do not feel like interacting with your spouse All you want is rest and peace.
Do not ever feel so.
There is a simple trick to enjoy an intimate and romantic relationship with your spouse.
Plan a date.
Just the two of you.
Make arrangements for your parents to take care of your children.
Become like lovers again.
Do not talk about tense topics during your date.
Enjoy your date as you would do your honeymoon.
Conclusion
“Relationships survive on trust and if that is broken at any point, it is pretty much the end of the relationship. Besides inability to communicate leads to problems.” Yuvraj Singh
Can you see how simple it is to make your marriage happy?
All it needs from you is your involvement and interest.
You easily made your love open during your dating days.
But after marriage everything about your relationship becomes boringly routine.
Do not make your married life plunge into a mundane co-existence between both.
Liven it up by openly displaying of love, by giving unflinching moral support and by spending quality time together.
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