Most marriages fail because couples make certain common relationship mistakes.
Why do you commit such mistakes?
The answer is very simple and blunt.
You do not understand your spouse from his\her viewpoint. When you are too concentrated on your own viewpoint you make your relationship boring, uninteresting and drab.
Top 5 common relationship mistakes couples make – AVOID IT AT ANY COST
1. Addiction to TV\Mobiles\Social media
Gravest of relationship mistakes.
You spend more time with mobile phones and social media than with your spouse. This addiction is very dangerous.
These are modern technologies which improve your lifestyle. But it can never improve your relationship.
- You spend more time chatting with your friends than with your spouse.
- You play more video games than have playful time with your spouse.
- You miss the beautiful and emotional bond family time gives you.
Does this mean you cannot spend time with your passion?
Of course you can.
But not at the cost of your family time.
You never realize that your addiction literally destroys the pleasure of spending quality time with your family.
2. Being self-centered
You are too self-centered that you make all sorts of relationship mistakes without really knowing it.
- You never acknowledge the individuality of your spouse.
- You thrust your views on him\her.
- You want your spouse to change according to your liking.
- You do not value the privacy of your spouse.
- You turn a blind eye to the rightful wishes of your spouse.
- You demand all his\her time and attention that makes your spouse want to shout enough is enough.
- You do not demonstrate your care and love for your spouse.
If you really want your marriage to succeed you should empathize with your spouse. Just as you value your individuality he\she also has every right to retain his\hers.
3. Making insulting fun of each other
Do you feel you are being humorous when you make fun of your spouse?
Do you know the hurt you inflict on your spouse when you make unwarranted comments about him\her before others?
Do you feel you a very humorous husband?
You think you are being witty when you make fun of your wife’s cooking. But your poor wife frets and fumes with suppressed anger when her pain\time\care in preparing your favorite dishes is criticized by your not so funny-comments.
You also take a derisive dig at her appearance. You never realize your wife is very sensitive about it.
Do you think you are a witty and fun-loving wife?
You poke fun at your spouse about his family. The poor man is nonplussed and stumped by the insult thrown on him.
You make fun of his absent-mindedness and lazy nature before your friends\relatives\colleagues. Your husband outwardly smiles but inwardly cringes in shame and anger.
Silliest of relationship mistakes, don’t you feel so?
Teasing each other is pure romantic fun. But degrading each other in the name of humor is a big no.
4. Always questioning
Do you question whatever your spouse does?
Yet another topmost relationship mistakes.
- You question about his\her whereabouts.
- You question about the money dealings of your spouse.
Is your spouse a school boy\girl that he\she has to answer all your doubting questions.
Your spouse is an adult with his\her own way of doing things. Never intrude into the personal zone of your spouse. He\she hates it. When your spouse has to endure all your probing questions he\she feels angry and irritated.
5. Not spending time together
You live in your own world and your spouse lives in his\her world. Both talk only about important family problems. But such topics are very heated and argumentative. Of course you should discuss about it, but not always.
Unless you small talk you cannot really enjoy your relationship.
Talking about innocuous topics like movies, sports, family gossips makes your interaction lively and extended. There is so much fun and joy in such small talk.
Do you make such relationship mistakes?
Unknowing to you it slowly but steadily robs the happiness quotient of your married life. When you realize your mistakes it might be too late.
Avoid it at any cost.