Most of you feel deprived of emotional intimacy with your spouse, don’t you?
In fact, you feel that emotional intimacy with your spouse is the most missing element in your relationship.
When there is no emotional intimacy between you, you feel very unhappy in your relationship.
You are unable to enjoy your married life when you and your spouse are poles apart in sharing your emotions and feelings.
Life is tough in this merciless world. And often you are surrounded by an array of problems.
- You have money related problems.
- You have work related problems.
- You face failures and rebuffs many a time.
- You face betrayal of trust.
- You have issues with your colleagues\relatives.
All these issues make you psychologically weak and mentally upset. You are at your tether end not knowing how to handle the procession of problems you face in your life. Your mind cries out for a word of care and support.
When your spouse reaches out to you, and pulls you out of your travails, you feel emotionally sheltered and protected.
Can you see that you need the emotional support of your spouse to face such day-to-day travails in your life?
If your spouse does not support you in your times of need, you naturally feel lonely and lost in your married life.
The emotional support you get from your spouse energizes you to face your life at its harshest. But without emotional intimacy with your spouse, you find it very tough to face the varied problems and issues you face in your life journey.
How does emotional intimacy with your spouse really work?
- When you are down and out, your spouse instantly boosts up your sagging morale.
- When you feel depressed, your spouse is the first person to pull you out of it.
- When you are financially down your spouse instantly pools you out.
Do not tell me that you do not need such a psychological support from your spouse.
You drastically need such an emotional security for the longevity of your relationship.
But suppose your spouse treats your problems as none of his\her business?
It clearly conveys that there is complete lack of emotional intimacy between you. Naturally you become emotionally shattered and battered when your spouse overlooks your problems as nothing to do with him\her.
Shall we have a peep into the devastating signs that you lack emotional intimacy with your spouse
1. You do not share your feelings
When there no emotional intimacy with your spouse, you scarcely share your feelings with him\her.
You do not know about the feelings of your spouse and he\she does not know about your feelings.
Both become so indifferent towards each other that you become more like strangers.
Even when you are suffering tremendous stress, your spouse ignores it as none of his\her business.
When your spouse is facing the worst phase in his\her life, you too cease to be emotionally supportive towards him\her.
The apathy both feel towards each other is an emphatic sign that there is no emotional intimacy between you.
2. You have nothing in common
You are so poles apart from each other that there is no common interest between you.
Yes!
If there is true love between you, both show involvement in the interest of each other.
But lack of emotional intimacy with your spouse has driven a wedge between you.
You never know what your spouse does with his\her life and he\she never know what you do.
You have no shared hobbies. You have no shared interests. Everything between you is isolated and distant.
When you are so isolated from each other, your relationship lacks interesting conversation between you.
You live in your own lonely world and your spouse lives in his\her own remote world.
Both feel miserable in your own way.
3. There is no physical contact between you
When you really enjoy emotional intimacy with your spouse, physical intimacy follows naturally.
You are so affectionate towards your spouse that you spontaneously hug him\her. You kiss your spouse without sexual intent.
But since there is no intimacy worth the name between you, you wrongly think that physical intimacy meant touching only during your sexual act.
Other than touching your spouse during sex, you scarcely show physical affection towards him\her.
4. You do not listen to the emotional needs of your spouse
Since you have drifted too far away from your spouse, you scarcely listen to what he\she has to say to you.
You are not interested about the feelings of your spouse. Whenever your spouse comes to interact with you, you are so bored to death that you coolly turn a deaf ear to whatever he\she is saying.
Your body language clearly shows that you find your spouse boring and dull.
5. Your relationship is one sided
You never contribute towards the stability of your relationship. You are so indifferent towards your spouse that you make him\her make all the contribution towards saving your marriage.
If there is a fight between you, you never apologize as you feel you have done nothing wrong.
When there is a family issue, you hold yourself aloof as you do not want to be involved in unwanted problems.
When you make your spouse responsible for everything, your relationship becomes one sided.
Conclusion.
“It is an absolute human certainty that no one can know his own beauty or perceive a sense of his own worth until it has been reflected back to him in the mirror of another loving, caring human being.” ―John Joseph Powell,
Can you see the destructive inroads lack of emotional intimacy with your spouse makes in your marriage?
Unless you cater to the emotional needs of your spouse, there can be no true love between you.
No marriage survives on its own. It has got to be nourished and cherished.
The best way to make your marriage stable is to embed emotional intimacy into it.
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