Financial cheating by couples, has become a common occurrence in today’s modern marriages.
It is indeed amazing, the amount of money you earn for your young age. Before marriage, you spent or saved money as your mind dictated, because you got carried away by your flourishing financial status. There was also, no one to question you, about the way you spent your money. This is the sort of freedom you want to enjoy, in dealing with your money.
But after marriage, your money is no longer in your control, as you become answerable to your partner. When your money goes out of your control, you are unable to digest your penniless status. Your bank balance, is depleted by your family’s financial commitments. You are unable to fulfill your personal wishes, as you have many other financial duties to be fulfilled. You feel as though you are a school going kid, when you have to ask the permission of your partner to fulfill even your tiniest of wishes.
When your money is continuously controlled by your partner, you do not like it a wee bit. You feel only you should be the authority of your money. But you do not like confronting your partner about it, as you well know your relationship with him\her would be affected.
What are the types of financial cheating by couples happens in today’s modern marriages?
No 1. Type of financial cheating by couples- Hiding your true income
Most of you do not confess your true income to your partner. You are dead sure, that if your true income is known to your partner, he\she will fleece you off it. This is something, you do not want to happen to you. So, you become an expert in hiding your true earnings from your partner.
You might get a bonus in your workplace, but it remains hidden from your partner. You might get a salary hike, but your partner will never know about it. When you discuss allocation of money for your family’s financial needs, you coolly reduce the amount you are earning, as you do not want to part with all of it.
Your partner also does the same thing. You know that your partner is cheating you, and he\she knows you are hiding your true income status. But both dare not question each other about it, as both know that it would only lead to counter accusations.
No 2. Type of financial cheating by couples – Hiding their debts
This type of financial cheating, causes intense anger and resentment among couples. After marriage, your partner has many plans about the financial future of your family. Your partner might plan a new home, or a new car. Your partner makes such plans, keeping in mind the combined income of both.
But unknown to your partner, you might have debts which you had so far hidden from him\her. When the plans of your partner go awry, because your income is slashed by your repayments to your debts, it causes intense disappointment and a feeling of being cheated in his\her mind.
Do not indulge in hiding your debts from your partner. On the flip side, it would do your relationship a world of good, when you are frank with your partner about your loans, debts and repayments.
No 3. Type of financial cheating by couples – Going on a purchasing spree
Online shopping has become a craze among today’s modern couples This sort of online purchase is often done by the wife, without her husband being clueless about it. Wife hides her purchases from her husband, as she knows he will put a speed break to her spending.
When wife is denied the right to fulfill her personal wishes, she feels that it is not wrong to hide her spendings from her husband. As a woman, wife likes to shop for dresses, accessories and handbags, without her husband frowning down on her.
So, wife goes on an online buying spree. This happens in almost all marriages. Though the husband is well aware of his wife’s online spending spree, he dare not open his mouth as he knows she will tear him apart with her anger.
No 4. Type of financial cheating by couples – Lending money
This is also yet another type of cheating, which happens in many marriages. Money might not bring happiness to your relationship, but it is crucial to make you financially stable and safe. Your partner likes it, when you are truthful about the money you earn. You too like it, when your partner is true to you regarding his\her income.
The financial status of your family is dependent on the combined income of you and your partner. But when your partner lends a huge amount of money to his friends\family without informing you, you are taken aback. Naturally, you are furious when you face a budget deficit caused by the mindless lending of your partner.
You would not have minded, if your partner had lent a small amount. But when your partner lends a huge amount to his\her friends\family, you are infuriated that he\she has cheated your trust.
No 5. Type of financial cheating by couples – Not helping you financially
Many a time, your partner might be in dire need of money, for one reason or the other. Or, there are times when your partner might have made a financial blunder and might look upon you to financially pool him\her out.
But when you do not lend a helping hand to your partner, even though you have the needed money, it makes him\her feel financially cheated by you.
CONCLUSION
In today’s modern marriages, you are financially rich. But your rich financial status does not make your relationship feel happy to you. On the contrary, you fight and argue with your partner regarding money. You often selfish about the money you earn.
When you indulge in financially cheating your partner, the heat it emanates in your relationship is not worth your bank balance.
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