Do you know the war of supremacy between husband and wife has changed the marriage scenario completely?
During yester years husband was the supreme power of the family. Modern women would find it strange and amusing that their yester sisters were submissive and docile and followed the orders of their husbands to the dot.
- During yester years husband was the unquestionable power of the family.
- His word was the final decision.
- There was no questioning his authority.
- His wife had to bow to his commands and demands.
- She had no great say in any important family issues.
Why was man glorified as the lord of the family many years ago?
Long ago, it was the husband who went to work and it was his wife who looked after the family. So, the husband always felt that he should be listened to by his wife. He also thought that his wife’s only duty was to look after him and his children.
You find the scenario of the yester generation marriage completely out of tune to your modern mindset.
Can husband hold such a massive power in a modern marriage?
No!
He cannot.
Because, the war of supremacy between husband and wife is now at its peak. Wife feel she is the pillar of strength in the family. Husband feels he is still the head of the family. So, both clash as to who contributes better for the family.
Is the war of supremacy between husband and wife necessary?
I still think back in amusement about what I studied as a kinder garden student some fifty years ago.
Here is the question.
Who is a father?
The answer invariably was – Father is the head of the family. He earns for the family.
Who is a mother?
The answer was always – Mother cooks for the family and looks after the children.
It was always assumed that father was the head of the family and mother looked after the family.
This definition of a father and mother can never find a place in the modern educational syllabus.
Why?
The concept of marriage has completely changed. The role of father and mother has undergone a world of changes also.
In fact, the role of the father is now looked in a rather lesser light.
This changed concept about marriage has turned your relationship into a war of supremacy between husband and wife.
Why has your married life changed so much?
The changes undergone by women in modern marriages
Your yester sisters have been confined to home for a very long period. But you can never imagine such a life of confinement for yourself.
You have now risen in your financial status so much so, that your husband has accepted that you are more than equal to him in contributing for the betterment of the family.
Your transformation has changed the concept of marriage drastically. You have dethroned your husband as the head of the family.
You are financially independent. You are as successful as your husband is. You are more assertive than him. When your husband does not listen to you, you have bitter arguments with him to prove that you are worth his attention.
The changes undergone by men in modern marriages
You have lost your position as the head of the family.
You can no longer take your wife for granted.
You depend upon the earnings of your wife to maintain a good standard of living.
You feel your ego bruised by the newly found assertiveness of your wife.
The needs of a husband has not changed.
- Your husband likes it when his ego is boosted and hates it when it is wounded.
- He likes it when you respect him.
- He likes a little service from you.
- He wants you to agree with him.
- He hates it when you are demanding about your rights.
- He feels edgy when you preach about his duties.
When the ego of your husband is crushed and demolished by you, it creates unhappiness and discontentment in your married life.
The needs of your wife has changed according to the altered marriage scenario.
- She likes it when you display your love openly.
- She wants you to listen to her.
- She wants you to discuss important family issues with her.
- She hates it when you make degrading comments about her.
When you do not understand the emotional needs of your wife, it creates unnecessary disappointment in your marriage.
Can you see how both need to be shown that you are loved by your spouse?
CONCLUSION
Who emerges victorious in the war of supremacy between husband and wife?
The husband or the wife?
None!
The result is utter chaos in the family. In modern marriages, this constant fight for supremacy has created a wide rift between you. You can enjoy a great marriage only when the emotional needs of husband and wife is pampered by each other. But in modern marriages, there is no such pampering.
There is only confrontation and disagreement between you. Both oppose the views of each other. This is the main reason for failed marriages.
A wife should make her husband feel respected. A husband should make his wife feel loved and cared.
This is the simple trick to make a grand success of your marriage. It is very easy to follow also.
A successful marriage means mutual happiness. It can be achieved only when you feel the emotional pulse of each other.
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